no the app shows things in order of like. publication of reviews and tbrs, and i am the only person my mom follows. that review would have been right at the top the second she opened the app. so.
if i was an adult and they did this to me it would be abuse but since i'm a minor it's somehow okay?? and i hate it so much, i'm literally turning 17 this year, i'm almost an adult and they treat me like i'm 12 years old, i have no say over my internet or devices, i can't have social media without their permission, i can't even choose whether or not i go to church. even if i have really bad cramps they make me go. i have to beg for more time on Notebook on my phone, i have to live in fear of them going through my phone or the books i'm reading, and i am so sick of it
i'm pretty sure that their controlling behaviors cause 99% of my mental issues, but if i said that they'd be like "what issues" or blame it all on me
Ugh, I'm sorry Ice. Parents like yours are the worst.
yeah. i wanna see a therapist and see if said therapist can get my parents to chill the fuck out bc it's legitimately not good for my mental health
here in PA, kids 14+ are legally allowed to get therapy and mental health help without letting parents know. so legit I could go get therapy without telling them and the law says I don't gotta
nice, idk what the Nebraska rules are about it tho
also have this link that i wish i could get my parents to read: https://www.fatherly.com/love-money/monitoring-kids-online-activity-doesnt-help/
its because its a direct violation of privacy and individual rights but so many parents think that children, especially theirs, are beneath having rights. you know. cause children arent humans
But they are (most of the time) doing it to protect their kids. Someone should. And the Internet is very not safe.
its because its a direct violation of privacy and individual rights but so many parents think that children, especially theirs, are beneath having rights. you know. cause children arent humans
But they are (most of the time) doing it to protect their kids. Someone should. And the Internet is very not safe.
ah yes, because i have exhibited such unsafe behavior on here and on Goodreads. I have spent all of my time sending nudes back and forth
flgshdbfkgj do you not fucking get it, Dominic? I don't get a space to actually be myself because i am so scared of them finding out and punishing me for daring to be anything other than a good little Christian girl
its because its a direct violation of privacy and individual rights but so many parents think that children, especially theirs, are beneath having rights. you know. cause children arent humans
But they are (most of the time) doing it to protect their kids. Someone should. And the Internet is very not safe.
Um… Most of the time it's to keep children from viewing dissenting beliefs to the parents' own. I agree the Internet isn't safe, but neither is censorship to the point of indoctrination.
its because its a direct violation of privacy and individual rights but so many parents think that children, especially theirs, are beneath having rights. you know. cause children arent humans
But they are (most of the time) doing it to protect their kids. Someone should. And the Internet is very not safe.
ah yes, because i have exhibited such unsafe behavior on here and on Goodreads. I have spent all of my time sending nudes back and forth
Askdjdjdks
flgshdbfkgj do you not fucking get it, Dominic? I don't get a space to actually be myself because i am so scared of them finding out and punishing me for daring to be anything other than a good little Christian girl
Point taken. I just read the article. It’s complicated. And I suppose I have to admit I don’t know the right answer.
its because its a direct violation of privacy and individual rights but so many parents think that children, especially theirs, are beneath having rights. you know. cause children arent humans
But they are (most of the time) doing it to protect their kids. Someone should. And the Internet is very not safe.
ah yes, because i have exhibited such unsafe behavior on here and on Goodreads. I have spent all of my time sending nudes back and forth
Askdjdjdks
That was sarcasm, I hope that was clear lol
flgshdbfkgj do you not fucking get it, Dominic? I don't get a space to actually be myself because i am so scared of them finding out and punishing me for daring to be anything other than a good little Christian girl
Point taken. I just read the article. It’s complicated. And I suppose I have to admit I don’t know the right answer.
Yeah. Like. It would be one thing if all they were doing was keeping me from viewing porn. Like. I wouldn't give a fuck about that. But when they're using it to control me to the extent they are, it's wrong
I understand wanting to make sure kids are safe online. but there comes a point in time when parents have to realize that their kids are growing up to be their own people and that monitoring them can become harmful. and there's also the issue of privacy. looking at everything their child looks at or posts or saves can turn into overbearing and extremely controlling, and that's harmful to a child's mental health because of the fact that, more often than not, said child has interests and views that differ from the parents, no matter the age
essentially: blocking sites that are known as harmful is alright, but monitoring and restricting everything is more harmful than good in the long run
it's like having a stalker, except it's someone you know and someone you can't stop
Also: my mom literally said "I should be allowed to read anything you publish online" like no??? I should be able to decide what I want you to read or not?? Otherwise it's just. Blatantly disrespecting my boundaries. Not that she gives a fuck about that
Also: my mom literally said "I should be allowed to read anything you publish online" like no??? I should be able to decide what I want you to read or not?? Otherwise it's just. Blatantly disrespecting my boundaries. Not that she gives a fuck about that
my mom did that with the short story I sent out to be published, and I was both terrified and pissed. I get you on that, and it fucking sucks
So apparently if I say the word 'beer' on my iPad it'll flag it and send a notification to my mom
Also: my mom literally said "I should be allowed to read anything you publish online" like no??? I should be able to decide what I want you to read or not?? Otherwise it's just. Blatantly disrespecting my boundaries. Not that she gives a fuck about that
my mom did that with the short story I sent out to be published, and I was both terrified and pissed. I get you on that, and it fucking sucks
And that's the exact reason I couldn't apply for the magazine, despite wanting to
My mom is doing that. Luckily my brother who checks the mail has agreed to sneak it to me.
essentially: blocking sites that are known as harmful is alright, but monitoring and restricting everything is more harmful than good in the long run
it's like having a stalker, except it's someone you know and someone you can't stop
Nicely said. Though I wish blocking sites actually worked decently.
Here's an idea, maybe teach your kids how to be safe on the internet instead of stalking them and monitoring their every move under the guise of keeping them safe because you had a kid so you'd have something in your life you could control and now it's been 17 years and you're finding out that you can't control a teenager and get them to do what you want because, having had them because you needed something to control, your parenting skills are more dreadful than average and you don't know how to teach your kid to listen to you or say anything worth listening to
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okay but literally it freaks me out how ignored internet safety is because it's s o important?? i mean ik i was shown a few videos in school but honestly so many kids barely take anything in school seriously and those videos were sometimes bad videos anyway but the message is important too and it's the delivery of it and stuff and parents really need to be more responsible about it
School acts like all internet weirdos are bearded basement-dwelling men who are creepy almost off the bat, but don't really teach that sometimes the person to look out for is the funny YouTuber you watch or the nice person who talks to you in chat rooms. Like yeah, your digital footprint and stuff is important but internet safety is mostly overlooked, especially in high school.
essentially: blocking sites that are known as harmful is alright, but monitoring and restricting everything is more harmful than good in the long run
it's like having a stalker, except it's someone you know and someone you can't stop
Nicely said.
thank you
Though I wish blocking sites actually worked decently.
same, tbh. because while I get that some sites genuinely should be blocked, nearly every site I had tried to get on through my school laptop that was blocked didn't need blocked and it just irritated me more than anything. because it was sites like Pinterest and others that I regularly used and knew was safe and okay to use
I'm not gonna go on porn or some shit honestly don't get the appeal. checked it out a while ago to see the hype, got caught, lied my way out of it, and never went back because it wasnt even that great
My old school had a really iffy blocking system where searching certain words was banned, but it wouldn't take the context into account? So words like "lace" and "hot" were banned, and you couldn't search "hot dog" or "hot chocolate" or "lace craft" or anything. I remember a friend telling me about how she had to search "warm chocolate" or something to find a hot chocolate recipe for a school assignment.
see? school blocking is just so dumb and irrational and just irritates the shit out of the students instead of keeping them safe
At my schools we never had this issue, but then again a lot of the internet regulations are different at British schools. I feel for you all, I really do.
