alright, am awake
got a few of the common aphobia examples/aphobic arguments that I could find, formatting's trash but it'll give you an idea
For a Christian standpoint, the general belief in some groups cough suffer cough is that marriage is a yiffual thing, two people uniting their bodies physically and being together as one for eternity (off-topic but how is it that even when people try to make yiff seem like a good thing it just sounds more and more graphic and disgustingly unappealing, come on you gotta have better descriptions than that), so if you aren't gonna do the thing you shouldn't get married or else you're not fully committing to the sacrament and that's Bad.
and it's a pretty general, common belief among ChristiansTM that if you're not dating with the intentions of marriage, it's sinful and disgusting.
So that leaves any allo-ro aces in the ??? zone, what are we supposed to do just suck it up?
Some people also see allo-ros as trying to rationalize the Gay, cause due to the somewhat blurred line between close friendships and romantic relationships, it raises the question of whether or not gay aces/bambis are sinful, if same-sex friends can cuddle, hold hands, or even kiss to show their platonic affection, when does it cross a line?
Usually that's answered by, instead of just accepting people, trying to simplify attraction, cause if you don't want to screw each other clearly you're just friends and you're trying to make yourself sound special with labels. (cause it's definitely not gay to make out with the homies, go on dates together, live together, share a bed, get married, and raise adopted children with them, you don't want to yiff so you're just friendssss, good ol friendssssssss)
There's also the typical sweet elderly lady's "aww sweetie it's ok, you just haven't met the right person yet, someone will come along and change your mind <3", which, with its many varieties, seems to be the most common aphobia argument. That we just need to hold out hope for some prince or something to save us from the evil ace dragon that we willingly adopted as a pet to guard the castle we happily live in, i'm not in any danger please get out of my house-
And another variety of that one, "how do you know you don't want yiff if you've never tried it", which is changed up and used against every sexuality out there, if you're not straight you'll be asked something like this at some point in your life and that's just the tea.
There's people confusing it with hyposexuality, which is a mental disorder resulting in little to no attraction, desire, or feelings at all when it comes to yiffy wiffy. This is where the "Asexuals are mentally ill" thing comes from, and why so many people might try and convince you to see a doctor/get help instead of just accepting your orientation.
In the LGBT+ community, a lot of people claim that aspecs shouldn't be included because they don't experience the same oppression, they aren't going to be kicked out of their homes or murdered because they don't like anyone.
and while it is partially true, some aces might have it easier than some gays, we're still a sexual minority, and from the multiple large cases of asexuals being raped or harassed in an attempt to "fix" them, I'd definitely consider us to be worthy of our spot in LGBTQIA+, regardless of whether or not others have it worse. (plus what about gay aces? they have all the gay problems and then some)
and there's also the divide between sex-repulsed (me) and non-repulsed (not me) aces, the non-repulsed might argue that the sex-repulsed ones are all just hypos, while the sex-repulsed ones sometimes claim the non-repulsed aren't real aces cause they like yiffy wiffy.
I don't have much to comment on it, it's all just pointless gatekeeping, but the divide is very real and sometimes not even ace spaces can feel welcoming because of it.
so ye now you know
