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Deleted user

August 22, 2020

god, some boys are really pretty

Deleted user

August 22, 2020

I mean yeah valid.

@Pickles

August 22, 2020

Time for: am I on the aro spec or just really fucking gay

SIKE I've been playing this game all month

Deleted user

August 22, 2020

You can be both tbh. I am.

@SpookyScarySnoteleks

August 22, 2020

So I found out that my best friend is chill with asexuality so that's nice

@berlioz

August 22, 2020

Hehe I like your username, Ash

@berlioz

August 22, 2020

Spoiler tagged because it's a vent and it's very small brained and stupid

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I think one of the biggest problems I have in regards to my gender identity right now is that, if I were to identify as non binary, I'd be that stereotypical skinny, white, vaguely masculine but mostly feminine AFAB person who's always correcting people on their pronouns
The only enby people I see and meet are pretty much all that stereotype.
I'm not dissing on enbies who are that stereotype, but because I'm that stereotype and so many other people are, I'm worried identifying as non binary is just a modern white "girl" thing. Some way of fulfilling the need to be special and alternative. People always make fun of AFABs, cis or not, for that. What if that's me?
What if my non binary feelings aren't real enough to be classified as, well, a gender other than cis?
Being percieved as a girl makes me uncomfortable. Being percieved as a boy makes me uncomfortable. But being percieved as fulfilling that stereotype and "pretending to be unique" for the sake of being a special skinny white "girl" makes me the most uncomfortable.
This is a stupid rant.
I don't want to be "valid". I just want to be me, without all the ties people might associate me with, without all the assumptions.
This is why we need diversity. It's not just for people who don't fit stereotypes, it's for people who fit the stereotypes and feel stupid for doing so.

@Moxie

August 22, 2020

~~if it makes you feel any better, you don’t fit any stereotype I’ve ever seen from my interactions with you and watching you interact with people~~

Deleted user

August 22, 2020

So what if you do fit stereotypes? I know feminine gay men and masculine lesbians and they've never been "faking" anything. You do you bro.

@berlioz

August 22, 2020

~~That does make me feel better, thx man~~

Deleted user

August 22, 2020

It is OKAY to fit a stereotype. Nobody can take your identity away from you.

Deleted user

August 22, 2020

Hell, even I fit into the stereotype of "softe transe boye" and like. I'm still who I am. People need to get over their shit.

@Pickles

August 22, 2020

Sometimes people fit stereotypes. That's how they got there. But a stereotype is not a person and is ~~stereotypically~~ two dimensional and you my friends are people and multi-faceted and I will punch anyone who sees you only as a stereotype :)

@HighPockets

August 22, 2020

I don't really think you fit the stereotype, but even if you did, transphobes see what they want to see, not what's really there (hence their ignoring of science and such to go "uhh boy is boy no matter what!"). There's really no pleasing them, and it's worth much more to be comfortable than to try and justify yourself to them.