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Started January 03, 2019 by Deleted user

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No, I’m not at a friend’s house. I’m on the phone with her.

Oh, Emi, hun, I’m so sorry you have to deal with this… You know I’m here for you whenever you need to talk, as long as I’m online.
I hope things get better for you.

Oh. Sorry Emi.
Maybe you need to reach out.
Whatever happens I want you to know that I'm totally here for you no matter what. You can always talk with me. I've got experience with asshole dads. And experience with helping people.

I went to the counselor but I don’t think that’s enough. Should I contact a hotline for something this serious?

I don’t think so. But perhaps give us more data.

I don’t think so. But perhaps give us more data.

Right. We need a fullgrasp of your circumstance.

We have an intimidating personality, obscenities, and an unknown level of physical abuse.

Mhm.
Sounds like abuse to me, Emi.

Well I’ve talked about stuff he’s done to me before. I feel (meaning I’m not sure if it counts) like he insults me by calling me stupid and a freak for not wanting to do stuff with him/stay in my room or do something wrong. He’s yelled at me for stupid things, like trying and talking to my sister as we eat (in a completely civil conversation). He’s also called me filthy and my room a pigsty (I told a trusted adult this (who is the mother of multiple sons) and she’s said this is totally normal for a teenager???).

He doesn’t lash out at me, but he’s threatened me with it. He occasionally in the car hits my left thigh pretty hard to the beat of a song we’re listening to, and I have to push him off but that’s all I really remember.

Emi. That's mental and emotional abuse.
Sounds like an asshole, honestly.
Being with friends helps.

The problem is that many abusers don’t know they are doing it. And in fact would be horrified if you suggested it. Even though there may well be evidence.

He doesn’t lash out at me, but he’s threatened me with it. He occasionally in the car hits my left thigh pretty hard to the beat of a song we’re listening to, and I have to push him off but that’s all I really remember.

That's also lowkey physical abuse.

Emi. That's mental and emotional abuse.
Sounds like an asshole, honestly.

That’s what I thought but my friend and her mum think different.

I’m sure your dad would just get mad if you said he was abusing you, resulting in not good. But what would he do if he somehow believed someone else who told him?

The problem is that many abusers don’t know they are doing it. And in fact would be horrified if you suggested it. Even though there may well be evidence.

Mhm. Some of them do it because it's the only thing they know how to do. My friend's dad was abusive like that.

I’m sure your dad would just get mad if you said he was abusing you, resulting in not good. But what would he do if he somehow believed someone else who told him?

I’m not sure how he would react at all. He’s just unpredictable like that.

sigh

Well I’m going to go get food. Wish me luck…

Unpredictable parents aren't a good sign.
I'd know.

K

Hi I’m back. The only thing that changed was that he blamed me for a game he lost and put it on me.

Other than this, I’m feeling a lot better. I’m dreading my mom coming home, though.

Shit, Emi, I’m not a professional, but that’s abuse

It’s fantastic that you’re feeling better, and try not to worry too much about your mom
It’ll all be fine in the end, you gotta believe that

Oh. Sorry about that Emi.

How are your pigs doing?

Thanks loves, I really really appreciate all of this. I might call a child help line but Idk if I should…

They’re doing alright. One grew a couple abscesses (one fucking burst) and we’re basically neglecting them because they’re so low on hay.

Oh. I see.
Wish you the best, Emi!

I’m scared of pigs.