forum The LGBTQ+ Community Chat :)

Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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@PuffPoff Okay cool! No problem, excuse the intrusion once again :-)

Personally, the only thing I’m use of is that I’m asexual. Tentatively I’d say I’m biromantic, but I’ve only really had crushes on people who I’ve known for a while, so maybe I’m demi? I’m not really sure.

Hello I’m not part of the LGBT+ community but I was wondering if someone could help me. I have a gender fluid character and I was wondering what pronouns should be used. They were born a girl but I don’t know if the pronouns change depending on if they feel like a boy or a girl on the day or if they stick to the pronouns they always used? Also I might consider making other characters that are part of the LGBT+ community so it would be very helpful if someone could tell me all the different kinds of genders and sexuality’s if you don’t mind. (Apologies if I have in any way offended anyone with these questions)

I myself am not gender fluid, so I can't help you much there. On the previous page I explained what pansexual and bisexual mean if that could help you.

I found a really good page explaining gender and sexuality. I’ll try to find it for you. Also, I think they/them pronouns are appropriate for someone who is genderfluid. (I’m not an expert though.)

(So I copied and pasted this from a tumblr post, and I edited a couple of things for clarification. I don't see genderfluid on here, but you can always do additional research on that one. It doesn't cover everything, but it's a good place to start.)

Homosexual - one who is attracted to one’s own sex

Gay - a male homosexual

Lesbian - a female homosexual

Bisexual - one who experiences attraction to all genders

Pansexual - one who experiences attraction based on personality instead of gender

Polysexual - one who is attracted to some (not all) genders

Androphilia - sexual attraction to men/masculinity

Gynephilia - sexual attraction to women/femininity

Asexual - not sexually attracted to others

Aromantic - not romantically attracted to others

Graysexual - normally does not experience sexual attraction, but sometimes will

Grayromantic - normally does not experience romantic attraction, but sometimes will

Demisexual - only experiences sexual attraction to someone they have a deep emotional bond with

Demiromantic- only experiences romantic attraction to someone they have a deep emotional bond with

Lithromantic - experiences romantic attraction but only in theory

Autosexual - one who experiences self-attraction

Skoliosexual - one who is attracted to non-binary individuals

Polyamorous - one who desires to have more than one partner at the same time, with the knowledge of all partners

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Transgender - one who identifies as the opposite of their birth gender

Transsexual - one who transitions from one sex to another

Genderqueer - one who identifies with neither, both, or a combination of male and female genders

Gender non-binary - one who identifies as neither male or female

Neutrois - I think this is interchangeable with nonbinary and agender?

Androgynous - partly male and partly female in appearance

Hermaphrodite - one who has both male and female sex organs or other sexual characteristics, either abnormally or naturally

Intersexual - one who has both male and female physical characteristic

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Straight Ally - a heterosexual, cisgender person who supports equal civil rights, gender equality, LGBT+ social movements, and challenges homophobia, biphobia, and transphobia

And of course, anyone who sees errors, feel free to correct them.

I know that Rick Riordan, in his Magnus Chase series, has a gender-fluid character, Alex Fierro. Alex tells his/her friends what pronouns are appropriate at what times. Like "Heads up, I'm a girl today, use she/her" @StevenUniversefangirl

@Kaloobia Thanks, that was pretty helpful! I don't think I can relate but now I'm pretty sure I'm not greyaromantic.
@Francis The way @Becfromthedead described it is pretty spot on where I like romantic relationships in theory but I'm not much of a hand holder or a cuddler or any of that. I've kinda come to discover that I'm okay with a limited amount of hand holding and all that but idk if thats got a name or if that's just a little quirk I have. Also I can't really relate to having a small amount of crushes. I've had a lot, I've just never had a desire for them to go anywhere. Thank you guys so much, this was really helpful!

Also with the bisexual thing, I may be wrong but isn't bisexuality being attracted to two genders? Hence the prefix bi?

@Moxie idk about bisexuality. I’ve heard both “attraction to two genders” and “it doesn’t necessarily limit a person to two genders, but doesn’t mean all genders necessarily.” I’m not an expert at all, and again, I copied and pasted it from something I found useful.
Also glad I could help!

@Moxie What you describe with "in theory" and "not wanting it to go anywhere" sounds lithromantic, like spot-on, if you ask me. Just my last two cents, hope you don't mind. ^^; Glad I could be helpful!

@Kaloobia I don't mind at all! You may be right, actually. Thank you for pointing that out to me!

I'm a gender fluid non-binary. I just realized today that all my characters are part of the LGBTQ+ community, and my pansexual girlfriend, Teagan, laughed hilariously at this.

@Becfromthedead thank you that was very helpful

@StevenUniversefangirl Glad I could help!

@Moxie oh, okay. Also, I think you're right about the Bisexual definition.

I did a little more reading, and bisexual typically means attraction to two genders, but some people are attracted to people regardless of gender and consider themselves bisexual, whereas if going by textbook definition we may consider that pansexual. I think there’s a point at which it’s more of a self-identifying thing, not really an exact science. So either works; it just depends on the individual.

@StevenUniversefangirl pronouns don’t necessarily have anything to do with a person’s gender so your character could use whatever pronous. There is nothing grammatical that says “she/her” pronouns (for example) are for people that identify as a woman. The same goes for all other pronouns. Society has just decided that certain pronouns go with certain genders. This being said most gender fluid people use the pronouns that correspond with the ones society has decided are used for their gender on any given day. For example if they felt like a guy they would use “he/him” pronouns. Some gender fluid people’s pronouns don’t change. For example your character may be comfortable using “she/her” pronouns even when they feel like a guy. When referring to a gender fluid person when you don’t know what pronouns they are using at the time just use “they/them”. Hope this helps. Sorry it’s a bit long.

@ConfusedHufflepuff That actually helps me, too! As a cis girl I never knew a genderfluid person would be comfortable just,,,,, never changing pronouns. Thank you for this info, it's good for me as a writer!! :)

I had an argument about being trans with my friend today, which fucking sucks…
He was talking about his identity, which is cool and all, and then he said, 'I'm not sure if I'm trans because I don't feel 100% dysphoria,' whatever the fuck 100% dysphoria means.
So, I'm like, 'You don't need 100% dysphoria to be trans, or any dysphoria, because that's basically saying that a trans person has to hate their body to be transgender.' I then explained how I didn't feel bad about the lower half of my body and that genitals were not something I was concerned about.
He then goes on to say some bullshit about 'women have vaginas' and if I don't want to change my WHOLE body, then I'm only a demiboy and 'not fully trans,' whatever the fuck fully trans means.
So I then walk out.
He basically tried to invalidate my identity because I was okay with having a vagina. The fuck?

@TeaTea05 I'm so sorry that happened to you! Your identity is your own and you don't need to hate your body in order to validate it. Stay strong, my friend.

@TeaTea05 That's awful, and I hope your friend comes to understand that what he said was wrong. But honestly, how can someone say something basically invalidating another person’s identity when they don’t even understand their own? Of course some people, even friends, aren’t going to understand your identity or respect it, but you’re still an amazing person and you deserve just as much support and love as the next person. Hang in there!

Hello! idk if you guys still chat on this but im an awkward Bisexual!!

Hello! idk if you guys still chat on this but im an awkward Bisexual!!

Welcome!