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Started April 21, 2018 by @Tylerrr-M-P

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being human is hard.

truth!

yes

i must go now, I have class in the morning.

That's society conditioning you to think that. I mean, heck, we see sex appeal used to sell goods and services, literally including food. Of course you now think it's wrong/weird to not want to do it. And with the emphasis that people put on relationships, everyone feel romantic attraction until proven aro, and even then, some people can't get it through their thick skulls.

I still kind of feel that way with not liking people romantically. I just kind of feel like… idk an alien? when everyone's talking about crushes and I'm in the corner like 'I don't get it'

Me every time the girls in my gym class would talk about how hot guys at our school were. "Lol none of them are on fire. What are you talking about?"

Idk why people get all offended about asexuality either. Why can't you deal with people…not wanting to have sex ? shocked gasps, someone throws a bottle at my head, distant screams can be heard

I mean, I don't get it? Why are babies so important? Why is sex? Why are humans so based on weird intimacy rituals that don't mean a whole lot? Like, sex is important to some people, but it's not what makes me human.

I mean on the one hand, I want to be an independent woman and do what I want and not be tied down by anyone, and on the other I want a nice SO and shopping trips and movies and cuddles and hand holding. As for me, what I always think of with the whole "Love=Sex" mentality people seem to have is that my personal belief is that love is baring your soul and heart to another person, not your body.

Not to mention the assholes who think they can change you. Like no you can't, but you can mentally and emotionally scar me.

Yeah…. that's happened twice now…

Oof. Sorry bb.
Honestly I'm ashamed of being human sometimes when I look at some of my fellow human beings….

Yeah. I'm still kind of wary of befriending guys because every time I do they get really persistent about having a relationship and I either have to cut them out of my life because they get really creepy or they stop talking to me and I'm just kind of left all alone.

That's so wild to me. Do… do people actually get flirted with/hit on in real life? I've been catcalled by strangers, but no one at school ever really pursued me. Thank god, but like… why some people but not others? I've had a few male friends, but none of them have ever tried that mess with me. (Side note, not important: I've always kind of wondered if it's because my facial features and some other aspects of my appearance are less "feminine." I had quite a few people mistake me for a boy when I had slightly shorter hair, and it was mildly frustrating and something I was insecure about for a long time.)

Ive never been hit on, catcalled, asked out, ive never kissed or dated anyone nor have I had an actual crush on anyone and ive never known anyone to have a crush on me haha my romantic life is nonexistent

^^^Same my dude

I'm really not sure. Like, I guess I'm objectively pretty (Curly blonde hair, round face, sweet smile, boobs) which helps but my school is also FULL of people trying to start relationships for whatever reason, which is another big factor.

I've never been asked out or kissed or anything. To be fair I'm still a Freshie.
I'm kinda pretty?? I'm short-ish, heavier, oval face, medium brown hair and eyes. Usually have a resting smirk.

Yeah, still never been kissed. Idk. Like, I don't get asked out too much, but it happens at least twice a year. Idk guys. Kind of super annoying. Especially when people won't leave you the fuck alone.

Ah, true. I'm not sure how old you are, but high school/college kids seem to be really desperate to get into dating people.
Personally, I wasn't asked out until late 16 and didn't have my first kiss until 17, so if you're interested in romance at all, you might not have a relationship until later high school. Or college, even. Or perhaps after that. But it's perfectly cool to not rush it. Romance isn't the most important thing in life, that's for sure. We definitely don't need it to survive.

I wasn't very popular to say the least mist of elementary school and I'm not the most attractive of people haha

Yeah I'm 16 turning 17 this year

One of my friends from Youth Group put it very well. She said a friend of hers was asked out by a guy she didn't like, and accepted anyway to get the 'nice' things in a relationship, like presents and such. My friend was confused and she was like "you're basically using him?? and manipulating him into giving you things even though you don't like him??" and the girl was like "but it's fun". THERE IS NOTHING 'FUN' ABOUT TAKING ADVANTAGE OF A PERSON WHO YOU DON'T LIKE BUT WHO LIKES YOU. NOTHING. It's immoral and rude, not to mention demolishing to self-esteem.

Yeah I'm 16 turning 17 this year

I AM SIXTEEN GOING ON SEVENTEEN I KNOW THAT I'M NAIVE
FELLOWS I MEET MAY TELL ME I'M SWEET AND WILLINGLY I'LL BELIEVE
I NEED SOMEONE
OLDER AND WISER
TELLING ME WHAT TO DOOOOO-OOOOO
YOU ARE SEVENTEEN
GOING ON EIGHTEEN
I'LL
DEPEND
ON YOU!!!!
(sorry I'm doing that song for voice right now)

My main problem is I feel really uncomfortable when I get asked out (Skin crawly, out of body, bile rising in throat uncomfortable) but I also feel bad about turning people down. I do it, but I feel bad and sometimes they try to push it and I have to shut them down and it sucks all around.

But if you're not interested, they should understand and respect that. By accepting the offer of someone you don't want to be with, you cause both of you undue drama in the future because the relationship wouldn't last. Trust me. It's better to just turn them down, and you shouldn't feel bad because of it.

Yeah I'm 16 turning 17 this year

I AM SIXTEEN GOING ON SEVENTEEN I KNOW THAT I'M NAIVE
FELLOWS I MEET MAY TELL ME I'M SWEET AND WILLINGLY I'LL BELIEVE
I NEED SOMEONE
OLDER AND WISER
TELLING ME WHAT TO DOOOOO-OOOOO
YOU ARE SEVENTEEN
GOING ON EIGHTEEN
I'LL
DEPEND
ON YOU!!!!
(sorry I'm doing that song for voice right now)

Oh my gosh that was beautiful XD

Listen, when I was like 3 or 4 years old, I would watch Sound of Music all of the time, and I knew most of the songs word for word. Sound of Music is welcome here. Lol