forum Anyone want a British friend? https://www.notebook.ai/forum/general-chat/did-you-know-lostboy2

Started July 06, 2018 by Deleted user

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Ah. It's 3:46 pm in PA (east side of US)

Sweet

HELLO I'M BACK HELLO
WELCOME TO THE NEW PPL
Pandapocalypse I like your icon, 10/10
new ppl- most of the chat is just us being gay and fangirling over Coluck and Kasse
so
yeah
welcome

Hey I'm Coluck's friend (Im back) Did you read my whole situation?

I did! It's v rough
I'm closeted too, it kinda sucks lol
I'm cis though, so I can't quite relate exactly to what you're going through
but I do get the questioning process and not quite understanding what you see in the mirror
oh yeah plus I'm Christian too so I get the faith crisis

Yay! Coluck's friemd is back! What's your name btw?

My name is Kim…. I actually have another thing if you guys don't mind hearing about it… It's about sexuality

ooh go for it I might be able to answer this one

Hey guys!

Go ahead Kim!

Soooo I have this friend who I'm only into AS A FRIEND. I don't have a crush on her and she's straight anyways. But she's really into cuddling and this sounds stupid but I really love it and sometimes she holds my hand and it gives me chills…. I'm pretty into guys and I actually have had the thought that if I was, uhh, not a girl… that I could totally date a girl or a boy but I can't imagine dating a girl as a girl myself… It's weird

If that makes sense….

Sorry to jump into this, but that totally makes sense Collin. (Also a closeted christian queer, in case you were wondering).

okay so you might be bi!!! like me!!!
IDK cause you didn't say this exactly, but if the idea of having sex with girls is what's weirding you out, then you might be biromantic, not bisexual. I figured out that I was ace bc once I id-ed as bisexual, I realized I just was not into sex and I never felt any sexual attraction
that stuff about cuddling and getting chills? oh hon I know exactly what you mean. IDK how much Coluck has told you about the other otp of this group, Kasse, but uh that's me and honestly I have a big crush on my friend Jessy, and like… the Straight Christian I was for 17 years of my life still thinks that dating a girl would be weird. but like… I also love her a lot? And I figure I'm this way for a reason. Maybe I won't ever actually date a girl. Maybe who I was for most of my life will prevent me from doing that.
It's a weird concept to get over/through
But like… it's a process? When I first realized I liked girls as well as boys I was like… no??? I'm supposed to only like boys, not both!!! and then figuring out I was ace too? I was like…
honestly
I felt broken
why am I not like 99% of the world
And it is hard. There is no way around it. But it is also a process. And you just gotta trust the process and keep working through it.

If that makes sense….

It makes perfect sense, but I don't think I'm the right person to give advice on this subject, so I'm just gonna leave it to the other peeps.

sorry that took a long time to type lol

I am also Ace, but not sure about the romantic bit for myself. I think it's very possible you could bi-romantic.

Yeah I totally get that

Is it possible to only be Asexual to only one gender? This is weird but I feel like I could be sexual and romantic with a guy but only really romantic with a girl…… Again sorry if this doesn't make sense…. Also I feel like if I was a guy I could maybe be sexual with a girl…

Guys, just for the info, what does it mean to be Ace? I've never really heard of it before now.

and there's also diff shades of asexuality if that makes sense
and also there's demisexuality
and like… I know I'm like. 100% ace so I don't know exactly how to explain the diff degrees (I think it's called grey-asexuality tho?)
and demisexuality, to my understanding, is when you only feel sexual attraction when you're really close emotionally to a person

I totally get the process your going through too, Collin. (Like Kat said though, not with the gender bit, I can't imagine how hard that must be).
I thought I was straight, then bi, then pan, and it was honestly so confusing. For two whole years I just couldn't figure out what my sexuality was and it left me more then a little messed up.
I finally found out was Asexuality was, and it just clicked.
My point is, you might feel really confused right now, but you just gotta hang in there. You WILL eventually figure everything out,. :)

Guys, just for the info, what does it mean to be Ace? I've never really heard of it before now.

I'm so glad you asked!
Ace is short for asexual, which means we just don't have sexual attraction to other people. There are diff "shades," as I explained above, so even though I don't experience any, there may be an ace who experiences v little.
It's not super common or well-known, only about 1% of the global pop is estimated to be ace
Some aces are sex-repulsed (the idea of sex disgusts them, and they don't ever wanna do it (hi, that's me)), while others might have sex with their partner who they love a lot or to get pregnant.

Asexuality is when you are attracted to neither gender in a sexual way.

I totally get the process your going through too, Collin. (Like Kat said though, not with the gender bit, I can't imagine how hard that must be).
I thought I was straight, then bi, then pan, and it was honestly so confusing. For two whole years I just couldn't figure out what my sexuality was and it left me more then a little messed up.
I finally found out was Asexuality was, and it just clicked.
My point is, you might feel really confused right now, but you just gotta hang in there. You WILL eventually figure everything out,. :)

yes def
you will find a click point
I felt a whole lot more comfortable id-ing as ace and biromantic than as bisexual