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Started July 06, 2018 by Deleted user

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I'm still going through, trying to read all 41 pages of this thing!

You don't have to do that.

Still, how did you guys mangae to get 42 pages in a day?

Hello, friend! I was also born female, and it isn't right. Although, I'm genderfluid so it's a bit different. Something that's helped me is establishing an identity outside of my home where my parents won't find out, which happens to be on notebook.ai. By establishing an identity, even it's not at all times, you have an outlet to express yourself how you want to, not how you're allowed to. Whether it's a blog, just in a group of friends, etc, it helps to keep balance between what you want and what you are allowed to do.

I considered coming out to one of my other friends but she is close with my mom and I don't want her to rat me out.

Well, being trans isn't anything to be ashamed of. But I was born and still identify as female and I wear t-shirts all the time. I don't thing people should stereotype clothing to genders, but bras are kinda needed if you have you-know-whats lol. (I would say…. you know…. but I don't want to make anyone feel uncomfortable.) But tell me more, I'm listening.

I'm still going through, trying to read all 41 pages of this thing!

You don't have to do that.

Still, how did you guys mangae to get 42 pages in a day?

I think it was two days?

Hello, friend! I was also born female, and it isn't right. Although, I'm genderfluid so it's a bit different. Something that's helped me is establishing an identity outside of my home where my parents won't find out, which happens to be on notebook.ai. By establishing an identity, even it's not at all times, you have an outlet to express yourself how you want to, not how you're allowed to. Whether it's a blog, just in a group of friends, etc, it helps to keep balance between what you want and what you are allowed to do.

I considered coming out to one of my other friends but she is close with my mom and I don't want her to rat me out.

Find someone that you know you can trust. If there's no one like that in your life, then you still have us.

I wear T-shirts. I'm horribly uncomfortable in girly clothing. Just thinking about it makes me sick but thinking about being trans freaks me out too. I know what my family would think… To put it lightly they wouldn't support it. But I look in the mirror and I don't see what other people see.

(If you don't mind me asking) why does the idea of being trans freak you out? Is it just because of how your family would react, or is it also the concept?

My family was at the store yesterday and one of the workers was very clearly trans and they were mocking her and thought it was wrong that I stood up for her… They aren't very open minded to that and I need to come to terms with being this way forever but it's so hard to look at myself sometimes

I'm still going through, trying to read all 41 pages of this thing!

You don't have to do that.

Still, how did you guys mangae to get 42 pages in a day?

I think it was two days?

It was started one day ago

I can't be him. I can't change. I wish I was born differently but that doesn't mean I can change now and it's hard

Don't worry! We're here to support you, feel free to come chat anytime. If it helps, are there any specific pronouns you would prefer us to use when addressing you? Anything you would like us to do so you feel safe and able to talk to us about this stuff?

I wear T-shirts. I'm horribly uncomfortable in girly clothing. Just thinking about it makes me sick but thinking about being trans freaks me out too. I know what my family would think… To put it lightly they wouldn't support it. But I look in the mirror and I don't see what other people see.

(If you don't mind me asking) why does the idea of being trans freak you out? Is it just because of how your family would react, or is it also the concept?

My family was at the store yesterday and one of the workers was very clearly trans and they were mocking her and thought it was wrong that I stood up for her… They aren't very open minded to that and I need to come to terms with being this way forever but it's so hard to look at myself sometimes

Do you fear dissapointing them or just them mocking you?

I've never been asked about the pronoun thing but can we try he/him… If I end up uncomfortable I'll let you know…

I wear T-shirts. I'm horribly uncomfortable in girly clothing. Just thinking about it makes me sick but thinking about being trans freaks me out too. I know what my family would think… To put it lightly they wouldn't support it. But I look in the mirror and I don't see what other people see.

(If you don't mind me asking) why does the idea of being trans freak you out? Is it just because of how your family would react, or is it also the concept?

My family was at the store yesterday and one of the workers was very clearly trans and they were mocking her and thought it was wrong that I stood up for her… They aren't very open-minded to that and I need to come to terms with being this way forever but it's so hard to look at myself sometimes

Do you fear disappointing them or just them mocking you?

Both really… I love them a lot but they would never allow me to change

I've never been asked about the pronoun thing but can we try he/him… If I end up uncomfortable I'll let you know…

Okay! Don't worry, if you feel uncomfortable with it I'll stop right away.

THank you that means a lot to me

I wear T-shirts. I'm horribly uncomfortable in girly clothing. Just thinking about it makes me sick but thinking about being trans freaks me out too. I know what my family would think… To put it lightly they wouldn't support it. But I look in the mirror and I don't see what other people see.

(If you don't mind me asking) why does the idea of being trans freak you out? Is it just because of how your family would react, or is it also the concept?

My family was at the store yesterday and one of the workers was very clearly trans and they were mocking her and thought it was wrong that I stood up for her… They aren't very open-minded to that and I need to come to terms with being this way forever but it's so hard to look at myself sometimes

Do you fear disappointing them or just them mocking you?

Both really… I love them a lot but they would never allow me to change

How old are you, if you don't mind me asking?

We're here for you, if you ever need to talk. (Sorry I wasn't of much help. I'm not very good with emotions and stuff)

We're here for you, if you ever need to talk. (Sorry I wasn't of much help. I'm not very good with emotions and stuff)

^^^

I'm almost afraid of him. I see him when I look in the mirror and he so desperately wants to be known. I was talking to a friend jokingly like 'what if I was born male?' and she said if you were a guy you wouldn't be you. I disagree I'd be the same person but happier. I am angry at people a lot and I think that's the reason

I am 15

I am 15

Ah. So, you'd have to have their consent, and such.

Yes. even if i was an adult I fear them hating me. We are all really close

I wear T-shirts. I'm horribly uncomfortable in girly clothing. Just thinking about it makes me sick but thinking about being trans freaks me out too. I know what my family would think… To put it lightly they wouldn't support it. But I look in the mirror and I don't see what other people see.

(If you don't mind me asking) why does the idea of being trans freak you out? Is it just because of how your family would react, or is it also the concept?

My family was at the store yesterday and one of the workers was very clearly trans and they were mocking her and thought it was wrong that I stood up for her… They aren't very open-minded to that and I need to come to terms with being this way forever but it's so hard to look at myself sometimes

Do you fear disappointing them or just them mocking you?

Both really… I love them a lot but they would never allow me to change

Honestly, I understand. I know a lot of people who have families that aren't as accepting. I'm glad that I come from a family that is accepting of me, but sometimes I feel incredibly alone, like nobody understands or cares. When I feel like this, I try my best to care for others and if actually works a lot. You just need to find your little community, we here in the notebook.ai family are here to support you and anyone else who needs it. Don't worry, just know that you can chat any time and that there are people here who love and care and support you, and remember that God loves you too (or not, if you aren't religious I totally get it and I'm chill with that, people are people no matter what they believe and I don't want to force my beliefs on you), no matter what's happening to you, no matter how broken you feel, and that even when those around you aren't accepting you, you can always come here and we will give you the biggest virtual bear-hug known to man (and women and variations thereupon)

Yes. even if i was an adult I fear them hating me. We are all really close

If you're close, they'll still love you. My advice: tell them. If they don't accept that, then wait a bit longer, then tell them again. Just don't do what some peole in your situation do and run away. That could lead to even bigger problems.

Lol thanks. I actually am religious which is another problem in itself

Lol thanks. I actually am religious which is another problem in itself

How so?

Yes. even if i was an adult I fear them hating me. We are all really close

If you're close, they'll still love you. My advice: tell them. If they don't accept that, then wait a bit longer, then tell them again. Just don't do what some peole in your situation do and run away. That could lead to even bigger problems.

I can't tell them. I know their opinions and what they'd say to me.