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@basil_

I feel like I should be really excited cause like, Christmas, yay! But my depression has decided I've been happy too long so it's time to make me sad for no fucking reason. And sorry for not being on this chat a lot or talking to any of you or the PMs but I've just been really down these past couple weeks. so..

@_sleeby_rat_

cool beans is right tbh. I know I'm probably a hypocrite but seeing a counselor is really important if you feel that way, because things can get bad before you can stop yourself

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

Well… It's like this…
Self-harm won't take away the psychological pain any of you feel, and if it does, trust me, that relief is temporary…
In fact, it will only add to the pain, and when those who love you find out… They'll be in pain too…
Self harm is like stabbing yourself in the hand to get rid of the pain from a stubbed toe… It only gets worse with time.
And you may develop an addiction to it.
Seriously. You may think it's your one outlet, but it's far from it…

@faltering_through pets

I agree with this and all but here where I live, in my school, I had a friend that went through the same thing and we told her to get help so she did but she wanted to keep it from her parents because they're known to be strict as hell like mine and her parents would probably flip out on her. So after a few days she moved out of our school because the counselor told her parents and her parents insisted that is was us, the friends that she hanged around with that caused that. Now I'm not saying that all the places are like this but for me personally that's why I'm terrified of doing that typa thing. Our school is just terrible and sucks so just ignore my unnecessary rambling but do get help if you're hurting yourself please

@_sleeby_rat_

and there's the issue of not having access to a counselor at all. my parents would probably stab me themselves if they found out I needed a counselor, and they'd probably assume it was my friends that "ruined" me. they already think that I have "bad friend choices" and they would probably try and keep me from going to Sweden if I said I wanted to see someone about my anxiety

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

and there's the issue of not having access to a counselor at all. my parents would probably stab me themselves if they found out I needed a counselor, and they'd probably assume it was my friends that "ruined" me. they already think that I have "bad friend choices" and they would probably try and keep me from going to Sweden if I said I wanted to see someone about my anxiety

You can always talk to me about it.
I'm here, darling!

@_sleeby_rat_

is there? idk either way I wouldn't go to the school counselor, they would probably insist on telling my parents everything

and thanks shuri, you're a gift :)

@SaltyLasagna

well I think the only reason the counselor would have to tell anybody about you is if they think you're an immediate danger to yourself or others or if they have reason to believe somebody is being abused (then they'd tell the police). At least, that's the agreement thing I had to sign when I started therapy.

@basil_

You don't realize how good it feels for someone to care about you until someone actually does. Like, it's always a thing that you assumed, that people care about you, but I have this one friend who found the cuts on my arm and now she checks for new ones almost every day. I don't want to go to a counselor but at least have someone to help you and care about you, it helps.

@blue_topaz

school counsellors are obligated to keep things between you and them unless you're at risk of hurting someone else or hurting yourself. at least that's what mine told me

@SaltyLasagna

for some reason, that can make me feel worse sometimes…. like I assume nobody cares about me bc it's easier, and then if somebody sees the scars on my arm or somehow finds out how screwed up I am and they tell me that they care for me and don't want me to go anywhere/hurt myself, is makes me feel a lot worse

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

well I think the only reason the counselor would have to tell anybody about you is if they think you're an immediate danger to yourself or others or if they have reason to believe somebody is being abused (then they'd tell the police). At least, that's the agreement thing I had to sign when I started therapy.

Hi know… But if you as a counselor can't handle self harm why are you in this line of work…
Am I right?

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

for some reason, that can make me feel worse sometimes…. like I assume nobody cares about me bc it's easier, and then if somebody sees the scars on my arm or somehow finds out how screwed up I am and they tell me that they care for me and don't want me to go anywhere/hurt myself, is makes me feel a lot worse

Jensen… You need to try to open up to people… Them caring for you isn't a weakness, it's a strength…

@basil_

for some reason, that can make me feel worse sometimes…. like I assume nobody cares about me bc it's easier, and then if somebody sees the scars on my arm or somehow finds out how screwed up I am and they tell me that they care for me and don't want me to go anywhere/hurt myself, is makes me feel a lot worse

I'm sorry…it's different for everyone. It just makes me feel a little better, that someone actually cares. I know what you're talking about, kind of like, people don't care about you until there's something wrong..I'm not really sure what i'm trying to say..