forum The tired, gay, sad, and confused chat

Started December 04, 2018 by @basil_

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Hopefully 2019 treats us all better

I've given up trying to hope for a better year lol that's just not gonna happen for me

Nooooo it will. Be optimistic!

yeah my mom took almost the whole month off out of spite but then she turned around and decided to work for three days straight. she doesn't have regular hours, she just leaves for days at a time and my dad is usually gone all day

Ah that sucks dude, at least you get time to yourself, yea?

I would go over to your house, covered in wrapping paper and strings of lights and garlands while wearing reindeer horns if it weren't for my grandparents staying here for 3 days

I would love that with all my soul lmao

That's it. I'mma show up on Friday looking the most festive you'll ever see me

lmao yes

side note it's Saturday now because my mom's a dick

Hopefully 2019 treats us all better

I've given up trying to hope for a better year lol that's just not gonna happen for me

Nooooo it will. Be optimistic!

Lmao yea I'll try but I'm a hardcore pessimists underneath that facade

Hopefully 2019 treats us all better

I've given up trying to hope for a better year lol that's just not gonna happen for me

Nooooo it will. Be optimistic!

Lmao yea I'll try but I'm a hardcore pessimists underneath that facade

throws optimism at you

I've been doing grunt work. Heavy lifting. Taking care of my sicc boi. Driving.
It's a big pain in my ass…

poor dante. hope he gets better so you guys can enjoy your vacation

He's sitting at home all cozy while I help some big dude I met off the street haul brush into a fire. I'm trying not to puke and shit my guts out, because I'm sick too.

you should be resting too then?? doing stuff like pulling things will just make you more sick

My sinus headache went away finally

Nah man…
I have to make enough money for cold meds and to pay the hotel… We're broke…

did you not save up/make a budget for the trip??

Yeah. I did.
Things don't always go as planned.

We have enough to fly back. And some extra.

well that's good. wouldn't want you to get stuck in Russia lol

oh my god my baby brother saw my dogs Lulu and Charlie and he said "hi Lulu! hello dog!" and I almost died, it was so adorable

I had a dream last night that I got tattoos on my arms and I was literally so happy I was like freaking out becauase it was so beautiful and I just loved it so much. And I am getting increasingly more frustrated at the fact that I cannot get any tattoos until I’m 18 because that’s the law lol and where I live you can’t even get any as a minor with your parents/guardians written permission. Like, there’s literally no way around it.

I agree with this and all but here where I live, in my school, I had a friend that went through the same thing and we told her to get help so she did but she wanted to keep it from her parents because they're known to be strict as hell like mine and her parents would probably flip out on her. So after a few days she moved out of our school because the counselor told her parents and her parents insisted that is was us, the friends that she hanged around with that caused that. Now I'm not saying that all the places are like this but for me personally that's why I'm terrified of doing that typa thing. Our school is just terrible and sucks so just ignore my unnecessary rambling but do get help if you're hurting yourself please

Yes this thing unfortunately can happen and does happen a lot, but I'm just hoping that it is safe for them to tell at least one adult in their lives before things get completely out of hand.

and there's the issue of not having access to a counselor at all. my parents would probably stab me themselves if they found out I needed a counselor, and they'd probably assume it was my friends that "ruined" me. they already think that I have "bad friend choices" and they would probably try and keep me from going to Sweden if I said I wanted to see someone about my anxiety

You can always talk to me about it.
I'm here, darling!

You seem like such a great person, thank you for offering help for tons of people, I know it can be emotionally taxing to do that though so make sure you're taking care of yourself as well. And I'm here if anyone needs me, too, even though I'm pretty new to the chat, I'm not new to hard topics.

A list of things you could do instead of cutting:

• Keep an elastic band around your wrist and snap it when the invasive thoughts get bad. It hurts, but it keeps me from cutting.
• Slap your leg, your arm, etcetera
• Bite your lip really hard
• scratch your skin
• draw/paint on your arms

Yes yes yes!!! I was able to stop hurting myself by drawing butterflies on my skin, and honestly it worked better than I expected, and now butterflies are like a lovely symbol of happiness and hope whenever I see them!

And to this person called Jenson, hang in there, you've got a lot of people in your corner willing to fight for you from the looks of it.

asdfghjkl I didn’t ask for this

and there's the issue of not having access to a counselor at all. my parents would probably stab me themselves if they found out I needed a counselor, and they'd probably assume it was my friends that "ruined" me. they already think that I have "bad friend choices" and they would probably try and keep me from going to Sweden if I said I wanted to see someone about my anxiety

You can always talk to me about it.
I'm here, darling!

You seem like such a great person, thank you for offering help for tons of people, I know it can be emotionally taxing to do that though so make sure you're taking care of yourself as well. And I'm here if anyone needs me, too, even though I'm pretty new to the chat, I'm not new to hard topics.

Thanks. Likewise you seem up to the task of helping people. It's a hard job, but it's the best one in the world! You take care now! It's good to have another good person around… I trust you'll do fine!
And if you ever need anything, I'm here now…

@Have-A-Very-Shuri-Christmas! It really is rewarding honestly, because even though your heart hurts every time you take on another's pain, when you see the people you've helped making progress and making steps towards becoming happy, it's the best feeling in the world and instantly makes up for everything else. Thanks for being such a good person yourself, you make this chat such a welcoming place. I'm sure there are other helpers like you here, too, I just haven't seen them pop up yet. And everyone here is a good person, or at least I believe so. Even if you don't have the energy or emotional resources to help others right now, you are still worth while and valid and a good person, it's just your turn to receive some of the helping.

It's fine. I'm cool now…
But you're right. It's a great thing to do. Increasing the quality of others' lives. Prolonging them. Outright saving them.
It's amazing. Although it can be depressing and anxiety-inducing. It's awesome!
And yes, everyone here's a fucking saint. They're all amazing. And they all help people.