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@im-with-stoopid pets

Ok, ok.
I hereby curse Birdie to constantly receive paper-cuts on the webbing between their fingers. Afterwards, they will somehow always come into contact with a citrus fruit, hand sanitizer, vinegar, or any other substance that makes paper-cuts sting.

@IcarusFightsTheSun book

Ok, ok.
I hereby curse Birdie to constantly receive paper-cuts on the webbing between their fingers. Afterwards, they will somehow always come into contact with a citrus fruit, hand sanitizer, vinegar, or any other substance that makes paper-cuts sting.

pure evil… i love it >:)

@the-void-phantasmic language

How does birdie have the audacity to say they don’t want to hear about the drama when they started the drama
Like just stop being a coward and talk to me directly that’s all u need to do
I’m literally a 14 year old child you’re having beef with I promise I don’t bite LMAO

@Morals-are-for-mortals language

Birdie felt like they were being ignored by us when we were in the middle of conversations that just didn't involve them at the time and since they apparently need attention at all times They Didn't Like That and it just escalated to this point. Guess they're finding more ways to get attention by becoming a victim and antagonizing us.

@EldritchHorror-Davadio health_and_safety emoji_events

not me sticking my nose where it doesn't belong again Couple of questions:
What's the practical effect of Birdie's actions? Other than hurt feelings, what does her little tirade actually do? You mentioned not being able to talk to close friends. Is sky your only way to do that, and if yes, could you get their info some other way? Discord, insta, some other way to talk to these friends?
Obviously, ignoring the problem doesn't make it go away, but also, neither does worrying about any and all rumors and mean things she might be saying. It kinda sounds like Birdie is the kind of person whose opinion isn't worth paying attention to anyway, so the less mental time and energy you spend being mad at her, the better, right? Unless there's some other practical way she's hurting you. Know what I mean?

@the-void-phantasmic language

The only social media I have isn’t Pinterest, and I don’t even have a good way to use the messaging system- Sky is the only relatively easy form of contact I have, lol
Also, birdie keeps saying that they’re tired and they want this to be ignored, but then they bring it up and complain a ton (mostly about me or Liz)
Yes, I do get what your saying- the practical effect is that this may split up our friend group and cause irreversible damage. That probably doesn’t need sound like a huge deal, but it’s happened to me too many times already- that wouldn’t be the best for my mental health
Plus, I’m still a kid- it’s really easy for me to get upset at this stuff. And, birdie’s pretty much an adult. It’s hard when an adult wages digital warfare against a kid who just wants to make friends-
No idea how this half-baked response sounds, but here ya go

@EldritchHorror-Davadio health_and_safety emoji_events

Oh, please know I'm not criticizing your response to the situation, or trying to like wave my hands at you and say 'just calm down'. I can just see that youre stressed about this, and any suggestion i can make to try to relieve that (like 'ignore stupid people') was the goal. Not to say you just need to get over it or anything like that.

And that is a very real practical effect. I'm sorry :/ On the flip side- your friends will know better. Those who truly care won't let her do that kind of damage. If there are friends who are so easily swayed by the drama, and allow the damage to be done to your relationship, then… you may want to rethink those friendships anyway, know what I mean?
You mentioned you dont have other social media. Do you have an objection to it for communication purposes with these friends?

13 and 17 are both still teens, though there is a big difference. It absolutely is hard and Im sorry youre in that kind of mess.

It is easy to get upset at this stuff, but thats exactly what Birdie is hoping for. I wanna say 'dont give her that satisfaction' but that still kinda sounds like 'just get over it' which isnt quite right. More like, feel the feelings and then set them aside, if you can.

@im-with-stoopid pets

Like, 17 or something-

Ok- whoa, whoa, whoa, hold the phone.

17?!

And Birdie's acting like a child who can't have another Oreo before bedtime? What?

@im-with-stoopid pets

You mentioned you dont have other social media. Do you have an objection to it for communication purposes with these friends?

Parents are the key issue here - couple of homies on Notebook can't really have other communication for one reason or another, but mostly it's parents.