They did seem really nice when I first met them, and we were great friends for a while- but then I made friends with their friends, and I clicked better with some of them than I did with Birdie, which may have been the start of the issue-
I met Birdie close to a year ago, btw
They especially didn’t appreciate when I became pretty much best friends with Liz, since me and Liz are the same age and vibe with each other more than we would some of the others. Birdie kept saying things to Blair like “I wish I never introduced Ame to Liz” and pretty much implying that they wanted Liz all to themselves, which is a little weird-
So yeah, this has been brewing for a while, it only exploded just recently
didnt realize I was that popular
I guess they didn't like that I was spending more time with you because I related a lot more than I could with them. We used to be pretty close, honestly. They'd tell me about their things, we'd do some sky stuff together and with Blair, etc. But I never knew how to help them, with any of their problems. Ever since I met them when they were feeling left out of an activity or conversation (me, Blair, mid, birdie, and occasionally others would go krill-dodge in wasteland) they'd go to a different part of the area and someone (usually Blair or me, I think) would have to drop what they're doing to make sure they're alright and try to help them. Seems they've always been like that. Didn't start with us being real close.
Us being close just magnified the problem and made it more frequent. Because we get together and talk whenever we're on sky and some conversations are pretty specific, they couldn't really be involved (I mean, they could've asked what we were talking about and id've happily explained). So they felt ignored. There isn't much you can do there when you don't know how to help. And in order to even try helping you need to drop your conversation and go over to them.
I got sick of trying to do that, so I stopped trying to help most times. I felt bad, but if every time it happened had the same result, it never fucking mattered in the end. This result was just something that slowly builded up over time, and now it's finally reached a critical mass. And exploded in the worst way possible.
this is actually Liz's fault just stop being so likable
Ok, so. That's called codependency, and it's dangerous, but it's not jerk behavior. It's hurt behavior. It's not excusable, but I definitely understand it, because the more you describe the situation, the more I realize I have been Birdie before…
I introduced one of my dearest friends to the guy who is now her husband. She was one of the only people who showed care for me at that time in my life, and I became codependent on her. To an unhealthy degree.
When she and the fella started getting closer, I felt Super cut out of the friendship, even though they hadn't done that at all. It was just my perception because my brain was so off. I made drama and created situations to force them to come get me emotionally, so I could feel included… Even tho they included me in normal healthy things all the time.
They finally got tired of it, and essentially told me they couldn't be my emotional support anymore. At the time,.I took it as betrayal, but once I got to a better spot mentally, I recognized that it was Entirely my fault. And we're good friends again now, all 3 of us. But it took me a minute.
I can't say if that's exactly the case for Birdie. But it certainly sounds similar
stop making me feel bad for them /j
i'm sorry I'll ty to be meaner next time 😔
It does sound similar. Not quite the same, but definitely similar. I was one of the people birdie would talk to occasionally about their family problems and at one time problems our friend group was having with another friend.
So when I started spending more and more time with ame and less time with them… Yeah. We drifted apart, and me and Ame got closer. And it never felt like we were drifting apart until birdie started to make a problem out of us. And we were completely fine at times, too. The same day this started blowing up all three of us had a rather long and interesting conversation (thatidontrememberbecausehahamemorywhere) that we were all engaged in. And then when that ended me and ame started talking about something and guess what they felt left out and moved away, not saying anything. And then they brought up the being ignored. It got bad. Now we're here.
stop making me feel bad for them /j
empathy will do that sorry
Seriously, don't feel bad though. My friends did the right thing, and yall are too by not putting up with her garbage. She's gotta learn, and really, the nicest thing you could do is what youre doing- apply tough love.
I'm sorry you're getting hurt in the process tho :(
empathy will do that sorry
Seriously, don't feel bad though. My friends did the right thing, and yall are too by not putting up with her garbage. She's gotta learn, and really, the nicest thing you could do is what youre doing- apply tough love.
I'm sorry you're getting hurt in the process tho :(
I've been in enough situations like this to have a default of not caring about it after a set amount of time after it blows up… Not a good thing, but hey. I guess it helps with the anxiety because lately I'm having none when we're talking about birdie. I am done putting up with them, so unless I need to talk to them, I'm not going to.
stop making me feel bad for them /j
empathy will do that sorry
Seriously, don't feel bad though. My friends did the right thing, and yall are too by not putting up with her garbage. She's gotta learn, and really, the nicest thing you could do is what youre doing- apply tough love.
I'm sorry you're getting hurt in the process tho :(
man I’ve been trying to get rid of that
Eh, it’s fine. I’m honestly just being as petty as they are out of pure spite, lmao. This is what they get for starting digital warfare against a 14 year old
I've been in enough situations like this to have a default of not caring about it after a set amount of time after it blows up… Not a good thing, but hey. I guess it helps with the anxiety because lately I'm having none when we're talking about birdie. I am done putting up with them, so unless I need to talk to them, I'm not going to.
good good. not caring isnt a bad default. keeps you from being less easily swayed in a situation
i'm sorry I'll ty to be meaner next time 😔
It does sound similar. Not quite the same, but definitely similar. I was one of the people birdie would talk to occasionally about their family problems and at one time problems our friend group was having with another friend.
So when I started spending more and more time with ame and less time with them… Yeah. We drifted apart, and me and Ame got closer. And it never felt like we were drifting apart until birdie started to make a problem out of us. And we were completely fine at times, too. The same day this started blowing up all three of us had a rather long and interesting conversation (thatidontrememberbecausehahamemorywhere) that we were all engaged in. And then when that ended me and ame started talking about something and guess what they felt left out and moved away, not saying anything. And then they brought up the being ignored. It got bad. Now we're here.
gotta get your angry face out
Yeah, she's definitely dealing with some strong codependency issues. Yall are unfortunately caught in the middle of her problems.
To that end, dont take it personally, Liz or Ame.
Discord VS notebook
Shhh, we're not big enough to wage that war
Discord VS notebook
Shhh, we're not big enough to wage that war
Birdies single discord server VS notebook
Discord VS notebook
Shhh, we're not big enough to wage that war
We’re bigger than the one server that’s causing issues
Discord VS notebook
Shhh, we're not big enough to wage that war
We’re bigger than the one server that’s causing issues
Precisely
Besides, technically birb’s the one that started war against me, and now I’ve got plenty of people from Notebook on my side :}
oh dear
welcome to our conversations
oh dear
You’re being drafted to the War Against Birdie 2023 /j
XD Can i draft-dodge by reason of being an Elder god?
XD Can i draft-dodge by reason of being an Elder god?
Any and all types of things with a notebook account are drafted in the War Against Birdie 2023
XD Can i draft-dodge by reason of being an Elder god?
Any and all types of things with a notebook account are drafted in the War Against Birdie 2023
Yes
Including our benevolent overlord andrew (Our Supreme Lord and Overseer) /j
oof. good luck with some of the cryptids
andrew (Our Supreme Lord and Overseer) is too nice to wage war on anyone but bots XD
