forum Guys I Actually Need Help It's About A Relationship Please Help Me
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@Joy_

Hey guys. I talked to him, and it went really well. We can't date, so we are taking a huge step back and truly just being friends. And I know I can do that. The thing is, my older sister thinks that he really isn't the right guy for me, and she doesn't think I can be just friends, seeing how my relationship with my ex went. I know that he has problems, and I know that he needs to mature and change some of his habits if we were to ever really be together. My sister doesn't seem to realize that I have standards, and I am not going to fall into the same patterns as before. What should I do? I want my sister to see things from my point of view, and I wish she could be supportive and helpful. My friend Elisha has given me some great advice and his cautions, but he's been guiding me, not shooting me down like my sister. How do you guys think I can convince her that we are going to truly just be friends and that I am in control f the situation?

@Joy_

Ayyyyyyyyyyyyyyyyye what's up fam? Sorry, I'm in a good mood and need to talk about this, reply or don't idc.
A few weekends ago was Fusion (youth retreat), and He and I decided that we were going to not care about rules and just hang out and have fun together and I had the best weekend ever! It was so much fun, and we got to hang out so much, like, as more than friends, but just hang out!!! It was so amazing! And during worship, everyone did this thing where you put your arm around the person next to you and kinda sway with the music, and so we just kinda held each other tightly and it was so amazing. We talked and laughed and I've never had so much fun with him before because of the lack of parents breathing down my neck! It was spectacular. I loved hanging out with him, and I shot him in paintball, and he was there for me when I tried to do the leap of faith (you climb a tree 60 feet up and jump off a small platform to grab a bar while in a harness), I failed because I'm terrified of heights, but it was still so fun! Ad I got to be there for him during group time, and I feel like I really got to show him how much I care about him. We're acting just like friends now, don't worry, I didn't do anything too stupid. The only downside now is I miss him so much more, but I still love him and this just made everything feel so right in my life right now. Sorry I just said all that, I needed to tell someone cause, of course, its a little bit of a secret, but it was so amazing and I loved every second of it. He makes me so happy, and even though we have to act like only sort of friends everywhere but youth group (cause my mom), I still have so much fun hanging out with him, and I am just really enjoying being his friend right now.

@Joy_

Sorry I'm acting so idiotically lovesick right now, you guys don't have to reply to my good-ranting, I was just tired of keeping it all in.

@Althalosian-is-the-father book

Yup. "For every action there is an equal and opposite reaction." You had a great time, you might feel a bit down. But you'll get over it.
Remember to keep proper distance or it might get out of control. But I think you're doing a pretty good job of that.

@Joy_

Yep, don't worry! I'm very much being careful of distance, but I'm okay with the missing him part because we got to be so much better friends over the weekend, so it was worth it.

@Joy_

Aw, thanks! It was an awesome weekend, and now our whole youth group has an endless supply of inside jokes!