Bastard Boyfriends, Honestly these are the most annoying, irritating and downright tasteless character, All they really do is be hot, smirk constantly and abuse the poor girl or boy that's unlucky enough to be in a relationship with these wastes of space, Honestly when I think abuse I think One person constantly breaking down another person, not an annoying arrogant bishonen tormenting their poor heroine or uke, I guess wouldn't be so bad, IF IT WASN'T PLAYED FOR ROMANCE! I'm sorry but I can't find abuse sexy I also HATE how these type of characters' abuse is portrayed as sexy and cute and how their horrible action are justified by stupid excuses such as "(S)He's just trying to protect her(him)." "Well, (s)he's a tsundere." "The hero(ine) should have fought back." "It's a BDSM relationship." or "Well, They had a sad backstory."
No these are horrible excuses, first, "Protecting" isn't an excuse to be a manipulative control freak
Second,tsunderes aren't abusive, over the top tsundere posers are, a character can be a tsundere without physically or emotionally abusing their love interest
Third, It's not the hero(ine)'s responsibility to change's their abuser's behavior, They're not "weak" for not fighting back, most of the time in these type of situations the victims probably have Stockholm Syndrome or is too afraid that their abuser may kill them or something, there are multiple reasons why victims stay with their abusers, They may see as normal, They may a lot invested in the relationship, like children, a home, they may have no one to turn to, but know this, it's not the victim's fault, I honestly hate this justification and honestly everytime i see some moron use this stupid, victim-blaming excuse to defend their good for nothing abusive husbando, I feel like slapping them upside the head
And don't even get me started on the BDSM excuse, you do know that most of the time, consent is a vital thing in BDSM relationships, Abuse doesn't use consent, so don't use this excuse
Look, I get that traumatic event cause screw you up but that still no excuse to abuse someone
so, in conclusion, This is the worst character type, I ever have seen, It's annoying, It's toxic and I think this may send possible bad messages, Honesty I wish the romance genre would just forget this character type and just use some less abusive types
PS> By this I guess should address their Distaff Counterpart to be short and sweet, I think the Bastard Girlfriend trope is worse since in-universe the abuser is mostly seen as cute or sexy because they physically abuse their boyfriend, Which I really hate