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Started January 17, 2019 by @The-N-U-T-Cracker

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That's not good! They are not real friends! You are not scum under their shoes at all!

I don't know their side of the story tho… i was pretty selfish and self-centered to them…

This is pretty bad.. It's horrible that you felt this way… I really hope I never become a part of something like that..

This is pretty bad.. It's horrible that you felt this way… I really hope I never become a part of something like that..

I did it to myself, don't apologize.

It's still wrong!!

Everyone makes mistakes. If you apologize they should forgive you.

I have. More times then you could count. They said they'd never forgive me.

What?? What reason do they have to say that??

I have. More times then you could count. They said they'd never forgive me.

I know what that feels like, Connie, trust me, I do.

You need to forget about them. They are the ones who are self-centered. You tried you best. In the end you will be the better person.

Not trying to be a bitch, but it's not someone's duty to forgive you and go back to being friends if you hurt them. Apologies don't equal instant forgiveness.

Midnight's right Connie. The people who don't forgive you, you need to move on forget them. It won't do anything but drive you up the wall, and make you angry, and make you miserable. Don't listen to them, because if you do you'll never get anywhere, and you might even just get discouraged as a whole.

Agreed, but that doesn't mean you hurt someone instead of forgiving them. You can still forgive and be hurt.

True. It sounds like they're hurting Connie back though. Two wrongs don't make a right.

The first instance happened when I got a little ticked off at person #1. Person #2 came to his defense, and #1 disappeared from the group pm. I wanted to add another friend of mine into our group chat, and 1 said no because 1&2 didn't like her because of bias. I then proceeded to say "You can't control me, im tired of being pushed around." 1 got upset and just disappeared, like I stated prior, and 2 stayed to yell at me and tell me they'll never forgive me after i apologized multiple times.

The second instance happened Nov 6. Lgbt chat… I said something about depression, person 2 was there, said something kinda rude but could be perceived as funny. The night prior I had a huge depression attack that 2 was completely aware of. Emotional, distraught, and upset, I said something about what she said… but in a selfish manner… 2 proceeded to tell me that I need to deal with my own problems and emotions. That she was tired of me complaining all the time… This led to me deleting my original account… because since fall (our friendship began in June/July) 2 had been horribly… horribly abusive to me.

Not trying to be a bitch, but it's not someone's duty to forgive you and go back to being friends if you hurt them. Apologies don't equal instant forgiveness.

You're not being a bitch Jynnie, that's right. Apologies don't equal forgiveness, and it's not somebody's duty to forgive you. But it's always a good thing to keep your heart open. Unless you know something really wrong is happening.

That's exactly what I'm saying!

Not trying to be a bitch, but it's not someone's duty to forgive you and go back to being friends if you hurt them. Apologies don't equal instant forgiveness.

Exactly.

This is pretty bad.. It's horrible that you felt this way… I really hope I never become a part of something like that…

I did it to myself, don't apologize.

Okay, look. Nothing you did can be so bad that you aren't worth being forgiven. When I was 8 I thought I was responsible for killing someone, she had mentioned that she wanted to commit suicide and told the fakest backstory the world will ever see, in an attempt to gain back her popularity after bullying some of my friends. (this was on a video game for children, btw) I was an idiot back then and believed it, and she said she was going to kill herself right after I had responded. Due to how quickly she decided that after reading my response, I immediately thought it was my fault, and that messed me up for a few years until I re-downloaded the game and found her still alive. Even though that hurt me for so long, I'd still forgive her in a heartbeat. Someone could kill my parents or siblings and I'd still forgive them.

Maybe you made a few mistakes, but they did too. There are two sides of that argument. You apologized to them. Now they should apologize to you. It seems like that won't happen though.

This is pretty bad.. It's horrible that you felt this way… I really hope I never become a part of something like that…

I did it to myself, don't apologize.

Okay, look. Nothing you did can be so bad that you aren't worth being forgiven. When I was 8 I thought I was responsible for killing someone, she had mentioned that she wanted to commit suicide and told the fakest backstory the world will ever see, in an attempt to gain back her popularity after bullying some of my friends. (this was on a video game for children, btw) I was an idiot back then and believed it, and she said she was going to kill herself right after I had responded. Due to how quickly she decided that after reading my response, I immediately thought it was my fault, and that messed me up for a few years until I re-downloaded the game and found her still alive. Even though that hurt me for so long, I'd still forgive her in a heartbeat. Someone could kill my parents or siblings and I'd still forgive them.

I know, but my own selfishness caused this. I'm just complaining about things i shouldnt.

This is pretty bad.. It's horrible that you felt this way… I really hope I never become a part of something like that…

I did it to myself, don't apologize.

Okay, look. Nothing you did can be so bad that you aren't worth being forgiven. When I was 8 I thought I was responsible for killing someone, she had mentioned that she wanted to commit suicide and told the fakest backstory the world will ever see, in an attempt to gain back her popularity after bullying some of my friends. (this was on a video game for children, btw) I was an idiot back then and believed it, and she said she was going to kill herself right after I had responded. Due to how quickly she decided that after reading my response, I immediately thought it was my fault, and that messed me up for a few years until I re-downloaded the game and found her still alive. Even though that hurt me for so long, I'd still forgive her in a heartbeat. Someone could kill my parents or siblings and I'd still forgive them.

That is terrible! I am sorry that happened to you. We know you would never kill anyone.

Maybe you made a few mistakes, but they did too. There are two sides of that argument. You apologized to them. Now they should apologize to you. It seems like that won't happen though.

person 2 apologized. but 1 and 2 are still ignoring the crap out of me. i just cant take the lonliness

Now that you're explaining, I think I joined right in the middle of all that.

Now that you're explaining, I think I joined right in the middle of all that.

What do you mean?

Maybe you made a few mistakes, but they did too. There are two sides of that argument. You apologized to them. Now they should apologize to you. It seems like that won't happen though.

person 2 apologized. but 1 and 2 are still ignoring the crap out of me. i just cant take the loneliness.

Hey. You still have us.