So…what do you think about real life age gaps? Where's the line? Or IS there a line? SHOULD there be a line?
OKay, I think there should be a line. Cause…pedophiles. But besides under 18 stuff what do you think about like a 20 yr. old and a 47 yr. old? Or maybe a 18 yr. old and a 47 yr. old?
Don't be rude, please. Don't say mean and unnecessary stuff, thanks.
Just making sure; is this a general question? Or are you writing a story with an age gap?
I would say between 5-10 years is the limit. Anything beyond that seems very, disturbing, depending on the two characters ages already.
It's a general question; I'm not working on any story with that rn, lol too tough.
I was thinking about it. Well, I've been thinking about it for the longest time and idk why. It's weird and interesting.
I'll put my two cents in as someone who is a full grown adult:
My sister is only 5 years younger than me, and we're on completely different wavelengths. She was still in middle school when I was in high school, and she just started high school when I was already a sophmore in college. Even though we're both adults now, the generation gap is noticable. There are certain things that I know that she still has yet to know, all because of our modest age gap, and there are things she knows that I scratch my head at because people my age don't think that way. If I had to date someone with the same exact age gap right now, I couldn't do it, and I don't think they would be able to either. It could work out, but the fact that we're so generationally different would definitely make it difficult. That's not even getting into power imbalances and ease of manipulation.
So I said all that to say that it would probably be safe to say that dating someone just a single generation off would be difficult for everyone involved, so imagine two people that are two, or three, generations removed?
Also, if a 47 year old can't find similar aged people to date them, and they need to go after some one over 20 years their junior, that's what we call a red flag.
Okay well I was going to say I have an aunt and uncle that are 10 years apart and I would say that's the max. It's not super weird at 10 years, but any more years and it probably would be.
HUh, that's interesting.
What you said makes a lot of sense to me, I never thought of it that way. Thank you for your input!!
Of course! Always happy to help. But yeah, my parents have a ten year age gap, and I think my grandma and grandpa have an eighteen year age gap.
I think it depends on how old they are. And then the age gap.
It's actually a very new phenomenon that people are getting married at the same age as each other. Not that they never did get married at the same age. A 20 year age gap wasn't that bad back in the 1800s. Once people are all adults, especially past college, age gaps start to feel smaller and smaller. I'm 18, and I've personally felt the age gap between me and say, 40 year olds shrink at a fast rate. Now it feels like I can be friends with those people, at least.
All that to say, romantic relationships with a 20 year gap might seem weird to Western civilization, but it didn't used to be that way, and places all over the world still have it like that. Not like that's the norm though.
For me, it really starts to be creepy if the age gap is 18 years or more. At that point it's a 'could be my father' kind of distance, which is creepy.