forum ~VERY IMPORTANT~ I need help. NOW. Like, we're talking a life and friendship is on the line. (My best friend is suicidal, HELP!)

Started November 23, 2018 by @CW-BornConfuzzledLeftILoveYa

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That's true

Yup, I can confirm the smiles thing

She’s been a perky person for almost forever (at least the time that I’ve known hers). But you know what they say. The biggest smiles often hide the most pain.

That's true…

Also, I'm planning to offer it up as a prayer request to my youth group, but I don't know…

a. How they would respond to a suicidal friend
b. How I would phrase it?

I'm not going to use her name, I'll just say, "A friend."

Is, "My friend has been talking about suicide recently, and I'm worried about her." an appropriate way to say it? As far as I know, only 2 other people in the youth group know her, and I invited her to a small youth event once. As I said, I wouldn't say her name, and if anyone asks, I'll tell them that I can't say. Is the above an appropriate way to address it in a youth group of 11+ year olds?

Also it's very easy to hide things online
Much easier to avoid a certain topic than if you are talking face to face

Also, I'm planning to offer it up as a prayer request to my youth group, but I don't know…

a. How they would respond to a suicidal friend
b. How I would phrase it?

I'm not going to use her name, I'll just say, "A friend."

Is, "My friend has been talking about suicide recently, and I'm worried about her." an appropriate way to say it? As far as I know, only 2 other people in the youth group know her, and I invited her to a small youth event once. As I said, I wouldn't say her name, and if anyone asks, I'll tell them that I can't say. Is the above an appropriate way to address it in a youth group of 11+ year olds?

11 years old is a little young… maybe you could bring it up to the leader of the group or the older people?

Well, only one of them is 11. They're pretty mature (as in they can handle things well). Someone once brought up the genocides in Africa, and they handled it just fine.

I think it should be fine then

All of them can handle serious topics, I think.

Is the example that I gave an OK way to address it?

Yeah, the it’ll probably be a good idea
But tone down the problem a bit or they might try to pressure you into telling them who, thinking there helping her get help

Then it should be fine
Make it sound like a fictional scenario if necessary

Yeah, the it’ll probably be a good idea
But tone down the problem a bit or they might try to pressure you into telling them who, thinking there helping her get help

How might I tone it down?

What are some good alternative things to say/ ways to address it?

These are all very good ideas…

Yep, they are :)

But I'm looking for specific things to say :)

(im being super picky, sorry :)

Yeah, the it’ll probably be a good idea
But tone down the problem a bit or they might try to pressure you into telling them who, thinking there helping her get help

How might I tone it down?

Like, instead of outright saying ‘suicidal’ say that she’s depressed and you’re worried she’ll start getting harmful ideas

What are some good alternative things to say/ ways to address it?

Make it sound like it's for a book or something
Or say you heard about it online and is curious what these people would do in that situation

okay

thank you, all!

OK I won't

No problem, I gotta go in around fifteen minutes though because the class I have doesn’t allow phones

So, I have a bunch of questions to ask her (who have you told, have you self-harmed, is there a reason, etc), but I don’t wanna pry.

No problem, I gotta go in around fifteen minutes though because the class I have doesn’t allow phones

okay

thank you for your help~!

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