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Deleted user

You weren’t. I decided my own fate because I fucked up on my own. But really, I should just leave. I’m not doing any good anyways. My existence is everyone’s pain and suffering.

Deleted user

Don’t worry I’m not leaving the site, Emi would probably kick my ass and never forgive me ever again. I would ruin a friendship basically. I’ll just float around instead of put my exsistence garbage on chats unless it’s about video games, anime, and manga or ships or gays (that’s a lot of ors.)

Deleted user

I don’t want to make anyone upset, so I’ll just stay, but only talk when I know what I’m doing and I’m one hundred percent sure I’m typing something on topic anencephaly it’s not confusing garbage like this comment.

@SaltyLasagna

Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

Okay, she might just be confused about her sexuality. And if you mean she's transgender (which means you should respectfully call this person a "he", despite what you may think of them) and this person is taking testosterone, the needle is filled with liquid. Moreover, it doesn't just come in the form of a liquid. You can also use a patch that you put on a certain area of your body, and I believe it comes in pill form as well.

Yeah but she took it as she just decided she was transgender on a random day, and then dropped it a couple days later. And she isn’t ‘confused’ about her sexuality, every time I ask her about her sexuality she will always tell me pan, even if she told someone else she was bi, or something else.

Okay, well they could be telling other people they're bisexual because it's a lot simpler. I do the same thing all of the time. I refer to myself as gay because generally I'm attracted to females and I was born female (and unfortunately there isn't a sexuality for non binary people), however I'm really open-minded and not super adverse to the idea of me dating a guy or somebody who's non binary.
For the gender thing, maybe they're scared, or confused about that as well. Trust me, gender can be an extremely confusing thing. It's something that can be hard to navigate for people who aren't cisgender. There are different types of transgender people. I'm transgender because I'm dysphoric about my chest and voice and quite a few other things, but because there are certain feminine clothing styles and other things that I'm comfortable with, I choose to identify as non binary. I'm still transgender because I identify as something other than what I was assigned at birth, but I don't go by he/him because I feel I don't completely fit into the roles assigned to males.
This person could be someone who's a transtrender or something like that, but that usually means they feel lonely, left out, or aren't comfortable with their body in some way and they're not completely educated on what transgender really means.
However, if they are educated and they do have dysphoria, DON'T undermine their struggles. They could be going through a lot right now, and it's completely unfair to just label them as a "faker" because they're confused and don't know who they are yet.

Yes, but you don’t understand, she did it for attention, we tried to explain to her what it’s actually about but she never listened, Emi is flat out ignoring her because once she drags you into her problems, she will keep stabbing you in the leg as you try to escape and pull you back in with guilt you feel because you just want to help but you don’t want to deal with her bullshit attention seeking crap that you want to solve, you know they are stubborn, but no matter what you do they stay in the same mindset. A friend of mine really cares about her, she tried her best to help her, she consistently talked to her, hung out with her, and even saved her from other shit. (Yeah I’m listing friends name because im confused) Jazzy(girl who is going through serious shit and is very confused) dragged Lisa(the girl trying to help who is also my friend) into this, and Lisa had to escape… Jazzy told her to fuck off and said she wasn’t her friend anymore, Lisa is going through way worse shit then Jazzy, abusive family, scaring past, suicidal thoughts, loosing close family, pure fear… Jazzy is just… I really don’t know what’s wrong, anytime I ask she says something unlogical and uninformed, you can’t take anything she says seriously anymore, you know it’s bad when ME the person who loves her friends and never wants to see them hurt is tempted to call a mental hospital and even tell my parents about the situation which can do many things. I’m sorry if I made it seem to awful, I still care about her it’s just hard to deal with her now, I don’t know what to do, if I loose someone else close in my life I might just break… same thing goes for Lisa’s opinion, same thing as mine. And before you say anything I’m not against Transgender people, I welcome them in open arms! I look up to those kinds of people, their confidence is reassuring, but Jazzy went to far, lying, yelling, breaking friend ships… all because she wanted attention…

If it's really that bad, there's nothing you can do to help other than suggest she see a therapist. Whether she does that or not is her choice.

@Shuri-the-Floof-Doggo

Alright. I love you guys. If you want to leave can you at least wait til' I get home to stable internet so we can reason this out? You're all amazing and none of you deserves to be left out… OK?

Can I just enjoy my vacation?

@ember-chan-will-never-forget-you

Alright. I love you guys. If you want to leave can you at least wait til' I get home to stable internet so we can reason this out? You're all amazing and none of you deserves to be left out… OK?

Can I just enjoy my vacation?

thANK YOU
im not on vacation
youtube for every day vacation?

Deleted user

Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

Okay, she might just be confused about her sexuality. And if you mean she's transgender (which means you should respectfully call this person a "he", despite what you may think of them) and this person is taking testosterone, the needle is filled with liquid. Moreover, it doesn't just come in the form of a liquid. You can also use a patch that you put on a certain area of your body, and I believe it comes in pill form as well.

Yeah but she took it as she just decided she was transgender on a random day, and then dropped it a couple days later. And she isn’t ‘confused’ about her sexuality, every time I ask her about her sexuality she will always tell me pan, even if she told someone else she was bi, or something else.

Okay, well they could be telling other people they're bisexual because it's a lot simpler. I do the same thing all of the time. I refer to myself as gay because generally I'm attracted to females and I was born female (and unfortunately there isn't a sexuality for non binary people), however I'm really open-minded and not super adverse to the idea of me dating a guy or somebody who's non binary.
For the gender thing, maybe they're scared, or confused about that as well. Trust me, gender can be an extremely confusing thing. It's something that can be hard to navigate for people who aren't cisgender. There are different types of transgender people. I'm transgender because I'm dysphoric about my chest and voice and quite a few other things, but because there are certain feminine clothing styles and other things that I'm comfortable with, I choose to identify as non binary. I'm still transgender because I identify as something other than what I was assigned at birth, but I don't go by he/him because I feel I don't completely fit into the roles assigned to males.
This person could be someone who's a transtrender or something like that, but that usually means they feel lonely, left out, or aren't comfortable with their body in some way and they're not completely educated on what transgender really means.
However, if they are educated and they do have dysphoria, DON'T undermine their struggles. They could be going through a lot right now, and it's completely unfair to just label them as a "faker" because they're confused and don't know who they are yet.

Yes, but you don’t understand, she did it for attention, we tried to explain to her what it’s actually about but she never listened, Emi is flat out ignoring her because once she drags you into her problems, she will keep stabbing you in the leg as you try to escape and pull you back in with guilt you feel because you just want to help but you don’t want to deal with her bullshit attention seeking crap that you want to solve, you know they are stubborn, but no matter what you do they stay in the same mindset. A friend of mine really cares about her, she tried her best to help her, she consistently talked to her, hung out with her, and even saved her from other shit. (Yeah I’m listing friends name because im confused) Jazzy(girl who is going through serious shit and is very confused) dragged Lisa(the girl trying to help who is also my friend) into this, and Lisa had to escape… Jazzy told her to fuck off and said she wasn’t her friend anymore, Lisa is going through way worse shit then Jazzy, abusive family, scaring past, suicidal thoughts, loosing close family, pure fear… Jazzy is just… I really don’t know what’s wrong, anytime I ask she says something unlogical and uninformed, you can’t take anything she says seriously anymore, you know it’s bad when ME the person who loves her friends and never wants to see them hurt is tempted to call a mental hospital and even tell my parents about the situation which can do many things. I’m sorry if I made it seem to awful, I still care about her it’s just hard to deal with her now, I don’t know what to do, if I loose someone else close in my life I might just break… same thing goes for Lisa’s opinion, same thing as mine. And before you say anything I’m not against Transgender people, I welcome them in open arms! I look up to those kinds of people, their confidence is reassuring, but Jazzy went to far, lying, yelling, breaking friend ships… all because she wanted attention…

If it's really that bad, there's nothing you can do to help other than suggest she see a therapist. Whether she does that or not is her choice.

You’re right… this is out of my control… all I can do is sit back and watch her break more over time… why does the bad shit always happen to my friends and family then I have to deal with it from the sidelines and I can’t do anything about it so my guilt and anxiety builds infinitely.

@faltering_through pets

You guys told me everything would be fine if I left… But so far it hasn't been fine…

Sorry Shuri, I'd like to apologize for my little drama that went down in the other chat, I realize that you may not be talking about me or to me specifically but I just wanna apologize because you do so much for this site and you shouldn't have to deal with our bullshit

@SaltyLasagna

That's not your fault. The best you can do is offer comfort and make it clear that she's important to you. That's it. You can't offer her treatment, though you might want to. Only psychologists/psychiatrists are qualified to do that (which is why it's the career I want to pursue). That's why the best you can do is offer support and suggest pursuing therapy.

Deleted user

That's not your fault. The best you can do is offer comfort and make it clear that she's important to you. That's it. You can't offer her treatment, though you might want to. Only psychologists/psychiatrists are qualified to do that (which is why it's the career I want to pursue). That's why the best you can do is offer support and suggest pursuing therapy.

Same for me, I’ve been through A LOT of things, suicide attempts of siblings, brother being beaten up by spoiled little shits and bullied at school, my friends family issues, all of it guilt trips be beyond what it should…

@SaltyLasagna

Yeah. I've been through some shit in life, and so have people I love. Years ago, before things got bad in my life, I actually said I'd never be a psychiatrist. But over time I developed in interest in mental health, drugs, medication, the brain and how it works, etc. I also have a growing urge to help people and always try to see the best in them and want to find a way to help people find their purpose and life a fulfilling life, or at least one where they're not in constant pain. I'm willing to put myself through the long, harsh, and difficult schooling and residency required to achieve my dream. I'm kind of afraid I won't be able to get there because I've had someone tell me that I might not get licensed by the state due to my mental health issues (which I should be able to take care of by adulthood, when I'm able to legally see a psychiatrist without my parents' permission). But I wouldn't be able to live with myself if I didn't at least try.