forum The tired, gay, sad, and confused chat
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@_sleeby_rat_

well you can't just say "I'm gonna be gay now." that's not how it works. you can't just up and decide to be gay, it just doesn't work like that

@actual-fandom-trash

But a lot of people on here are gay so I just feel left out

well it's not exactly a choice my friend but allies are welcome! (not actually part of the community tho)

@SaltyLasagna

well you can't just say "I'm gonna be gay now." that's not how it works. you can't just up and decide to be gay, it just doesn't work like that

yeah, it's just like gay people can't just decide to be straight because who you're attracted to is not a choice.

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Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

@SaltyLasagna

ha my sister says that i shouldn't be pansexual
i was like 'boi you can't just decide not to be pansexual'

exactly
I honestly don't understand why it's such a big deal
like, even if you could choose who you're attracted to, who cares who it is?? What I do in my life is nobody's business but mine and whoever is directly involved in it. As long as I'm not hurting anyone, nobody has the right to interfere.

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well you can't just say "I'm gonna be gay now." that's not how it works. you can't just up and decide to be gay, it just doesn't work like that

Agreed.

@SaltyLasagna

Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

Okay, she might just be confused about her sexuality. And if you mean she's transgender (which means you should respectfully call this person a "he", despite what you may think of them) and this person is taking testosterone, the needle is filled with liquid. Moreover, it doesn't just come in the form of a liquid. You can also use a patch that you put on a certain area of your body, and I believe it comes in pill form as well.

Deleted user

Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

Okay, she might just be confused about her sexuality. And if you mean she's transgender (which means you should respectfully call this person a "he", despite what you may think of them) and this person is taking testosterone, the needle is filled with liquid. Moreover, it doesn't just come in the form of a liquid. You can also use a patch that you put on a certain area of your body, and I believe it comes in pill form as well.

Yeah but she took it as she just decided she was transgender on a random day, and then dropped it a couple days later. And she isn’t ‘confused’ about her sexuality, every time I ask her about her sexuality she will always tell me pan, even if she told someone else she was bi, or something else.

@basil_

meanwhile I have no goddamn idea what my sexuality is anymore, I just know I'm not straight

hahaha me
according to my mother, I shouldn't put labels on myself. Which means I'm not coming out to her until i'm older.

@SaltyLasagna

Here’s something that’s been pissing me off for the LONGEST time.
There’s this friend(Don’t even know if she’s my friend anymore) had this thing where she would randomly change her sexuality everyday, then tried to lie about how she was Transgender, and took the thing that actual transgender people are given after A YEAR of therapy and she’s never been in therapy. The first sign that it was bullshit is that she said she ‘spilled it’ on her skin, BUT this thing is NOT a liquid, it’s a needle you inject into your arm. SO SHES JUST LYING FOR NO REASON? WHY THE HELL WOULD SOMEONE LIE ABOUT THAT! ITS SO CONFUSING!

Okay, she might just be confused about her sexuality. And if you mean she's transgender (which means you should respectfully call this person a "he", despite what you may think of them) and this person is taking testosterone, the needle is filled with liquid. Moreover, it doesn't just come in the form of a liquid. You can also use a patch that you put on a certain area of your body, and I believe it comes in pill form as well.

Yeah but she took it as she just decided she was transgender on a random day, and then dropped it a couple days later. And she isn’t ‘confused’ about her sexuality, every time I ask her about her sexuality she will always tell me pan, even if she told someone else she was bi, or something else.

Okay, well they could be telling other people they're bisexual because it's a lot simpler. I do the same thing all of the time. I refer to myself as gay because generally I'm attracted to females and I was born female (and unfortunately there isn't a sexuality for non binary people), however I'm really open-minded and not super adverse to the idea of me dating a guy or somebody who's non binary.
For the gender thing, maybe they're scared, or confused about that as well. Trust me, gender can be an extremely confusing thing. It's something that can be hard to navigate for people who aren't cisgender. There are different types of transgender people. I'm transgender because I'm dysphoric about my chest and voice and quite a few other things, but because there are certain feminine clothing styles and other things that I'm comfortable with, I choose to identify as non binary. I'm still transgender because I identify as something other than what I was assigned at birth, but I don't go by he/him because I feel I don't completely fit into the roles assigned to males.
This person could be someone who's a transtrender or something like that, but that usually means they feel lonely, left out, or aren't comfortable with their body in some way and they're not completely educated on what transgender really means.
However, if they are educated and they do have dysphoria, DON'T undermine their struggles. They could be going through a lot right now, and it's completely unfair to just label them as a "faker" because they're confused and don't know who they are yet.