forum For those in need of Encouragement

Started September 10, 2019 by @Echo_6 group

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I'm happy to help whenever. I hope you're doing alright

and i wish i could say i am

I'm sorry… I'd love to help if I could

i'm ranting in the venting chat, thank you though!

What's up nerds? Hope time has been kind to you

Hey guys… It's been a moment…
I'm gonna be honest, I haven't thought of this chat in quite a while. Wanna know why I'm here? My computer randomly swapped out this, for the document I had been writing in. I was going to say that I didn't know why, but when I think about it a bit, I think I do know why.
I'm writing this in tears. Everything hurts. Physically, Mentally, and Emotionally. Why? Because the world turned upside down, inside out, and started spinning a different direction. We all thought that it couldn't get much worse, but I'm warning ya now, we still got 5 levels of jumanji before this year's gone. And I don't know that it's gonna get better anytime soon.
You all know that one thing that I keep harping on, right? You know that whole thing, "You make a difference." That is still true. It is very true and it will never stop being true. But I made a mistake. Shocking I know. I, an imperfect human, made a mistake. Ya know what that mistake was? That difference that you make can swing one of two ways, and you control which way it swings. Either it's gonna swing positively or it's gonna swing negatively.
I don't know which because I don't happen to read minds, and I am not you. The only one who knows which way it will swing is you.
There is so much hate in the world right now. And it's not getting better. If anything it's getting worse. And I could not, for the life of me, figure out why. Then it hit me. It's not getting better because we're not letting it get better. We are working under a system that is wrong in so many ways. Honestly, I can't think of any ways to fix it aside from ripping it up and starting over. At first I would look at it and say the people in power wouldn't allow that to happen, so it's not possible. Then I look at it again.
Of course it's possible. If it's not possible, then what on earth have I been saying for the past year? You all have a voice. In some way, you can share your thoughts. There is always a way. The only thing is, if you truly want things to get better, be careful with what you say. Read it over more carefully a third time before you post anything online. Think it through thoroughly before the words leave your mouth. What are you searching for as you're doing this? What is the message that you are sending? Will this help solve the problem? Or will it add to it?
And I know, people are not going to like some of the things that are going to need to be said. Because some people are just self centered jerks, and they believe that the world needs to revolve around them.
Harsh and brutal truth for this next paragraph. You've been warned.
The world doesn't revolve around you. You can not possibly be right all the time. And if you think that it does and you are, then you are wrong. Plain and simple. Everyone has their own life, and their own problems, and you can not push your problems onto everyone else. Asking for help with something, or asking for support when you need it is something completely different. Know the difference.
I don't have all the right words. I know I've said this before. I'm not always right. At the moment, I could be spouting off about something that I thought I knew something about, when really I know nothing. That just shows that I, like all of you, am human. Human. It is a general term. Every person out there is human. You can't get more human, and you can't get less human. That is just what you are.
We all matter. All of us. And not only do we all matter, but we all make a difference.
The only question remains. What kind of difference are you making?
I'll leave that answer up to you.

Excellent!

@The_Wild_Warrior

I'm not really good at voicing things. Horrible at it, actually. But I just want to say thank you. For this thread, for what you've been doing.

Thank you.

uhhhh hey could use some encouragement about self discovery or something

hey.
i know it sucks.
but you're here.
you're breathing.
that's enough.
i love you.

totally screenshotting that
ima need that in the future i just know it
tysmmmm <3

yw izzy !!
i tweet daily goodnights of that general variety so if u need them u can look @tarorvcha on twt !

:000 yisss okayy

I know I haven't been on notebook long, but I could use some encouragement. I'm trying to get myself out of an anxiety attack that's been going on for the past thirty minutes or so.
My family isn't the best and they don't realize it, so they tend to send me into panic/anxiety attacks.

hey
i don't know you,
and you don't know me

and that's okay, but you know what? i'm here for you.
you will be okay.
i know you will.

first, breathe.
try to control your breathing.
in, hold for five seconds.
out, hold for five seconds.
repeat.

again, you'll be okay.
i know you will.
i do not care, that i barely know you.
you are a part of this community now, and so i love you (platonically) <3
i care and i am here for anything you need, okay?
big big biggest hugs @ fren
you've got this <3

So, a friend and I started talking. I started opening up about my insecurities, as you do, and we kinda went back and forth.
As we bantered back and forth about why I thought I wasn't good enough, and her insisting I was, another friend came up. I insisted that they tell the first friend they were wrong, and I wasn't good enough, or pretty enough, or whatever. But they looked at me, and the other friend and said something I think a lot of people need to know/realize.
We're all the prettiest/best looking.
I didn't think much of it, and sort of brushed it off. But as I let it settle, I realized they were right.
What are we comparing ourselves to? Who or what is the height above us that's the best? You don't know. You can't know, because there's more to come. There's thousands of people who are considered the prettiest/best looking, and it's constantly changing.
So how are we to know what's the highest held place? We don't. So you can't be the prettiest.
You're probably wondering, how is this suppose to make me feel better about myself? Well, think about it this way. Step back from yourself, and look at the big picture. No one can be the 'prettiest'. So no one can be the 'ugliest'.
Everyone is equal, in a way. It doesn't matter how heavy you are, or how old or young you look. You're good enough the way you are. Don't let one person's perspective change your opinion of yourself.
I know how hard that truly is, but the less you let it impact you, the happier a person you'll be.

I want you to take a look at yourself sometime, and say to yourself; I'm enough.
You don't have to say you're attractive, just don't call yourself something negative. Start with a step. You can't get anywhere if you stand still.
One day you'll make it. You'll be able to hold yourself with confidence, and no one will tear you down.
But to become something great, you have to start somewhere.
You're plenty perfect. Don't believe what people try to tell you about yourself. You're the only one who truly knows you.

((Sorry for the rant. I'm tired and emotional.))

i'm not crying you're crying
thank you.
genuinely, it's just always sitting at the back of my head waiting for the worst possible time to pop up and just
things like this, are what tell that small voice saying that i'm too fat to stfu
and it usually works

so again,
tyvm

<33

Hello! Hey! Sorry it's been quite a while since I put anything here. Not gonna lie, I've kind of been avoiding anything talking about feelings, what's been going on, and just in general confronting myself and all of my flaws. That and I've been trying to find ways to say this that doesn't offend someone on the planet in some way, but unfortunately there just isn't any way to please everyone.
Starting off, I've noticed a lot of debate about which is more important. Black lives, or all lives. This has caused a huge rift among people and a rift in people has caused a huge spike in depression, anxiety, and other really bad mental health problems.
I'm going to switch things up a bit and instead say this. "Your life matters. What you do with your life is up to you, but it still matters."
So no matter who you are, where you come from, who your parents are, what you've done, what you look like, what you sound like, what you act like, your life is important. And no one has the right to tell you otherwise.
Your words will make an impact, your actions will to. So you have to be careful with what you say and do. People are always watching and always listening. Always.
At the same time, don't let that knowledge stop you from doing you.
I've said it before, I'll say it again, and again, and again, and again, and until I die. It will be etched on my tomb. You make a difference.

Hello! Hey! Sorry it's been quite a while since I put anything here. Not gonna lie, I've kind of been avoiding anything talking about feelings, what's been going on, and just in general confronting myself and all of my flaws. That and I've been trying to find ways to say this that doesn't offend someone on the planet in some way, but unfortunately there just isn't any way to please everyone.
Starting off, I've noticed a lot of debate about which is more important. Black lives, or all lives. This has caused a huge rift among people and a rift in people has caused a huge spike in depression, anxiety, and other really bad mental health problems.
I'm going to switch things up a bit and instead say this. "Your life matters. What you do with your life is up to you, but it still matters."
So no matter who you are, where you come from, who your parents are, what you've done, what you look like, what you sound like, what you act like, your life is important. And no one has the right to tell you otherwise.
Your words will make an impact, your actions will to. So you have to be careful with what you say and do. People are always watching and always listening. Always.
At the same time, don't let that knowledge stop you from doing you.
I've said it before, I'll say it again, and again, and again, and again, and until I die. It will be etched on my tomb. You make a difference.

yes. i've been avoiding feelings too cuz that shit's hard to talk about but mentally i'm in a terrible place and i maybe should be talking about my feelings.

Hey… I'm back. It's been a minute.
(This is kinda gonna be a blerb of randomness that is being spit out with very little thought to it. Bare with me.)
I won't lie, I hit a really rough patch in my life and felt like absolutely everything that could go wrong went wrong. And I was hurt. Really hurt. Both emotionally and physically. So much had happened in my life and I couldn't control any of it. And I reached a darker place than I had ever been before. I began doing things that were very much classified risky behavior. Things such as climbing up cliffs with no rope, and just kinda hoping to not fall and die. But I didn't care. Part of me wanted to die. Because then I wouldn't have to deal with all of the things that were happening. But then I thought of my friends. And my family. And all of the people that would miss me if I died. And I was reminded that I have a bunch of reasons to stay.
Not all reasons have to be big. Sometimes you just need the small reasons to stay. Like seeing the sun on a morning after it's rained. Where everything is glittering and the air smells fresh. The different colors of moss on stones out in the middle of the woods. The fuzz of your favorite blanket. Little raindrops on leaves. A milkshake. Hot chocolate. Building Legos. stacking cards. Petting a cat or dog or bird, or horse, or mouse, or hamster, or basically any pet you or a friend owns. Listening to your favorite music.
There are so many little reasons. And we always have them all around us. We just get so caught up in the big bad things that happen, that the little things seem to little to matter when they matter a ton.
I hit a really hard spot, and it wasn't the big things that helped the most. It was the little things.
This is just my little reminder to all who still follow this.
If the little things are important, so are you.
Hard times will come. Press on and find those little reasons.
And remember, (Because this is now my catch phrase)
You make a difference.

I haven't been here in a while… There a lot of reasons for that.

First things first, I'm extending thoughts and prayers to all those affected by what happened in Tennessee just two days ago. It was a horrible situation all around, and I'm here for all those affected by it.

Second things… And for this I'm doing a TM Suicide. Because this is a heavy topic…
Just recently I lost another friend of mine to suicide. And it hurt me to my core because I'd known him for over seven years by that point. And just like that he was gone.
So please, please, please if you are struggling, text me. Shoot me a message. I'm here for anyone basically at all times. In fact I'll wake up to my phone vibrate once from across the room. I will stay up all night with you if you need. When I tell you that your life is important, I mean it in every way. And I will go to the far reaches of the universe for you if I have to. There is no price on life. There is no price on your life. I can not stress this enough how much you matter.

Please do not allow anyone to tell you that your life isn't significant. You've been put here to do amazing things. And I will stress that as hard as I can. You make a difference in the world. Let your difference be a good one. Don't take away from everything you've already done. Taking care of yourself is one of the most important things you can do. And I'll be honest for a long while I was not taking care of me. I was too focused on taking care of everyone around me. Because I'd lost so many people in such a short amount of time and I was terrified that I was going to lose someone else. Every message on my phone gave me anxiety because I was thinking, "Who died this time?" I stopped eating nearly enough, sometimes going two or three days without eating anything. I was not sleeping, afraid to because I might miss something. The only thing I managed to continue doing somewhat properly was drinking water. And instead of taking care of myself I was trying to take care of everyone around me.
As I've come to learn however, you have to take time to take care of yourself. You are the most important life in your life, and you have to take care of that life. So never feel bad for taking you time. Never feel bad for telling someone no when its so you can recharge your battery. Maintaining yourself is so very important, and never let someone tell you it's otherwise.

Thank you all for being so amazing. I hope you all have an amazing up coming weekend. I hope to talk to you all again soon. Be safe out there, and message me if you need anything.