I have a character(Lucas) https://charahub.com/character/1354367/Lucas-Bates who's been emotionally neglected by his father as a child, due to that he tends to clingy and overly jealous, while my characters want to change that, his fears keep manifesting in some form of alter ego. how to write his feelings manifesting and what type of emotions are associated with fear of abandonment
well abandonment is one of my biggest fears but i think it's probably a different experience for everyone so don't just blindly listen to me lol
personally i worry that people will find me annoying/unlikable which will make them get tired of me and leave or stop hanging out with me so i tend to be kinda closed-off and insecure. also i try really hard to be funny bc that's my only trait that i think can get people to at least tolerate me
looking at lucas's page i can see that he's confident and reckless, and i think it'd be really interesting to see how those traits interact with his fear of abandonment. maybe he would do something confidently and then second-guess himself later when people don't react too positively, or he'd make a reckless decision and worry that people would hate him for it and therefore abandon him??
these are just my poorly-organized thoughts but i hope they help at least a little
Thank you for the advice did really help
A character in my work in progress, Jake, lost his mom in a car accident caused by a drunk driver. This on its own causes him to develop his PTSD. However, three years later, when he was 10, his older sister, who grows up to develop bipolar disorder, goes into a manic episode and almost gets into one herself. She goes into a coma and this breaks Jake. He goes on to develop an extreme fear of losing people he loves. This fear becomes obvious when his girlfriend (my protagonist)'s depression starts to show. He knows how clinical depression feels and is afraid when there's the slightest chance of her committing suicide.
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Hi! Consider adding a literal fear of being abandoned to your character's personality. Like for example, if he stops to tie his shoe and his friends keep walking, he immediately gets upset and calls for them to wait up–even if they're not going far or walking slow. He might even do this without realizing how commonly he does it.
This is just a thought, you don't have to include it if it doesn't fit your oc. Hope it's helpful either way! ^^
Jealousy of friends who find another friend that's really cool. Constant nagging thoughts like "Come on, no one will stay with you forever. Don't expect that. It's stupid. Maybe they mean well. But it's not like they won't leave eventually." Manipulative so as to gain more "friendship points" so that they can prolong the time of friendship.
(im just going to follow this because this is literally me !)
well abandonment is one of my biggest fears but i think it's probably a different experience for everyone so don't just blindly listen to me lol
personally i worry that people will find me annoying/unlikable which will make them get tired of me and leave or stop hanging out with me so i tend to be kinda closed-off and insecure. also i try really hard to be funny bc that's my only trait that i think can get people to at least tolerate me
looking at lucas's page i can see that he's confident and reckless, and i think it'd be really interesting to see how those traits interact with his fear of abandonment. maybe he would do something confidently and then second-guess himself later when people don't react too positively, or he'd make a reckless decision and worry that people would hate him for it and therefore abandon him??
these are just my poorly-organized thoughts but i hope they help at least a little
Or also doing reckless stuff when he feels like he's being ignored, in a sort of "see! I'm cool! Look at that cool thing I did!" way, or putting on a fake shield of confidence.