forum Pls tell me about being a closeted gay in a homophobic family

Started October 29, 2019 by @Fangirl616 group

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And especially how that has long term effects. (This is part of the love interests backstory [yes the main pairing is gay])

Scary.
Very scary.
For some people, if they come out, their parents can get hella angry and violent- they might even get kicked out but for me, my mom just cried and wondered what the hell she did wrong, the usual

She got really depressed after that but she still won't accept the fact that im attracted to the opposite gender

As for long term stuff, something that she's been trying to do is drag me back to church which i swear with all my heart it's a fucking cult
They'll try to isolate you from everyone else- even try to get you to drop out of school and brainwash you, saying that you're going to hell n stuff if you don't repent and let them help you

I could go on but it's just something that goes on in my life

Before i came out though, my mom and her friends would talk crap about the LGBTQ community and how we were all damned and it made me feel like absolute shit, it kinda fucked me up mentally and i was even homophobic of myself for some time before i learned to accept it

So yeah
I hope this helps some though this is more of an ex-christian point of view

As a closeted bisexual, I can relate to at least a few of the points here. It's scary to think that my parents might kick me out or be angry for something I can't exactly control. If anything, I find that the church itself is led by a bunch of people who don't actually practice what the Bible itself states. From what my other gay friends have told me, it's a lot of fear and manipulation regarding how people try to mess with you. When it comes to being bi, there are SO many people who either straight up deny that it's a thing or say "you haven't found the right man/woman yet." The worst thing I've heard about bi people specifically was that we're "predators" and "deviants" that are simply trying to have sex at every opportunity.
And then, y'know, all of the threesome requests on dating apps and such.

From what I remember, the major issue with gay men back when more of them started becoming popular (Elton John, etc.) was that they were pedophiles. Most of the pedophiles in the 90s that were caught were all gay men, and so that generalization stuck, and that ended up terrifying parents around the country. It fuckin' sucks, and it's taken something like 10-15 years to break the stigma.

Thank you guys. I'll try my best to represent the horribleness and long-term effects this type of thing can have in my story. Thank you for sharing your experiences.