forum Hey, I need help with this, just like advice

Started October 07, 2020 by Deleted user

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I'm not sure if I wrote this "correctly", for lack of better term.
I want advice on how to write asexuality, so if you could help me, that would be nice.

Here's what I got down thus far:

Also, not sure if this is the right place to do this

As an ace myself, here's my thoughts. Oh, and also some general writing stuff.

• If this takes place in the US, it's Pride Month, not Pride Week
• How does one sound like a radio? I think you mean a radio host, or, more accurately, someone speaking in a transatlantic accent
• You don't need to use wine twice in the same sentence.
• The placement of Azrael's cough makes it seem like she's the one talking, and not Allison
• You sort of just…copy/pasted all of the things that @pickle-The-Wife-Of-America told you about the history of asexuality the other day? And it comes off as super out-of-place
• It really, really rubs me the wrong way that Voz (the asexual character) only accepts himself and uses the term after Allison (an allosexual character) essentially validates him.
• You also…didn't really write about asexuality? You never even define it or say what it means to Vozrael. This isn't about his identity as asexual, it's a brief history of asexuality and aphobia and how his asexuality impacts her. The focus is not on Vozrael, it's on Allison.
• Where did Allison even get the pride flag from? Does she just keep random pride flags in her closet?

All in all, well-intentioned but it comes off in an After-School Special sort of way.

Hey there! I don't know if I'm even necessarily qualified to give any advice on this subject since I am still kinda in the dark about my own identity, but I did definitely, for a while, go through a time in my life where I thought I might be asexual. It still occasionally comes up, and I think giving you a bit of my thought process can help with the inner parts of this character and the subject of asexuality.
For a while, I tried to justify my complete avoidance and distaste for sexuality because I was a preteen and teenager, and I simply wasn't old enough to enjoy sex. I thought that was the reason, until I had to come to terms with how many people my age ACTUALLY willingly have sex.
When I realized that, I tried to justify it through my childhood; I grew up in a Christian household that treated sex like some scary adult thing that you shouldn't ever think about. Maybe it's that, right?
But even kids my age with the same general upbringing have sex.
I tried to justify it by reminding myself that I was single, and all my friends my age that were in relationships seemed miserable; being in a relationship was not appealing to me.
Then i got a boyfriend. I'm still not interested in having sex. It's really a strange thought process. For years I thought everyone could relate to how much I wasn't interested in having sex, or at least tried to give some reasoning to it that wasn't asexuality. It took me a few years to even consider that maybe I was asexual. Even now I still don't know for sure! But, just like every sexuality, it is a spectrum. It's not as simple as you think it is, and it can help to really look into the ins and outs of asexuality and what different types there are.

Anyway, I hope this helps. Good luck on the writing!

As an ace myself, here's my thoughts. Oh, and also some general writing stuff.

• If this takes place in the US, it's Pride Month, not Pride Week
• How does one sound like a radio? I think you mean a radio host, or, more accurately, someone speaking in a transatlantic accent
• You don't need to use wine twice in the same sentence.
• The placement of Azrael's cough makes it seem like she's the one talking, and not Allison
• You sort of just…copy/pasted all of the things that @pickle-The-Wife-Of-America told you about the history of asexuality the other day? And it comes off as super out-of-place
• It really, really rubs me the wrong way that Voz (the asexual character) only accepts himself and uses the term after Allison (an allosexual character) essentially validates him.
• You also…didn't really write about asexuality? You never even define it or say what it means to Vozrael. This isn't about his identity as asexual, it's a brief history of asexuality and aphobia and how his asexuality impacts her. The focus is not on Vozrael, it's on Allison.
• Where did Allison even get the pride flag from? Does she just keep random pride flags in her closet?

All in all, well-intentioned but it comes off in an After-School Special sort of way.

Thanks! I'll keep this in mind!!