forum Reuniting a parent with their child - how does the accomodation period work?

Started June 17, 2019 by @Kinarymo

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So basically, a child is reunited with their parent for the first time - they haven't seen each other since the kid was born (forced separation).
Idk how separation n stuff work, so how do they behave? >.>

OK, so.
It really depends on the situation.
If the parent was forced to give the child up, they might have a lot of emotion. Depending on the kid's situation (do they know a lot about their parent, do they blame their parent), they will most likely have very different emotions. One such meeting may start with tears from the parent but ending with a fight sparked by the kid.
If the parent wanted to give up their kid, there probably won't be a lot of emotion running through their system. There may be, but it's unlikely, since they didn't want the kid to start with.

I know it's not a lot, but I hope it helps.

I know a few people who went through something similar and might be able to serve as positive examples. In their case, the parents gave them up due to poeverty/being aware that they were in no way able to care for the children well enough to give them a good life. The children only found out about their parents still being alive by chance, and wanted to go meet them, no matter what the reason was they were given away. When they were reunited, it wasn't necessarily easy, but because every party involved just wanted to get to know each other/was happy the others were alive and doing well, it was an overall positive experience and they are still in contact today, though they live far apart. What made the whole situation so positive i think was the fact that the 'children' were around 18 when this happened and were ready to take a balanced view of the situation. Instead of focusing on feeling angry or upset at being abandoned at an orphanage, they chose to respect their parents decision in trying to make it possible for them to have a better life, and to see the love their parents did still have for them.
One thing they did say afterwards was that it was almost surreal for them to meet these people they didn't know and to see them as their parents. I do know reunions can be a lot more messy than this case, but i just wanted to show that this can happen in a more positive way.
Also, it was clear to all of them that they would not have to stay with their parents for a long time, so i think the fact that neither the kids were expected to now suddenly treat them as mom and dad and the parents were not suddenly thrust into the expectation of taking care of the children helped. That might be something your characters might end up struggling with if that is their situation.