forum Would anybody want to walk me through my first death? I just want someone to talk to.
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I had my best friend die, due to a car wreck, this last Friday. Someone, anyone, I just need somebody to talk to. Thanks.

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Heyy you two, thanks for showing up. My school just held a group prayer for it so I'm kind of a wreck right now. How in the world are you supposed to cope with something like that? Just knowing you'll never see their smile again, never hear their words??

@Rainy_is_back

I personally (and I don't say this to boast, but I want you to understand) have never had anyone close like that pass away. But I'm always here to listen if you need it.

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Don't worry, I was the same until Saturday. I guess that's why I'm so lost, and so cold.

The last thing he said to me was, "I don't want to become a statistic. I want to live past 21 like the others did." He rapped, he had a Soundcloud and put out little closet songs. He didn't make it longer than me. He always told me to keep my head up, always told me to keep smiling, and he just DISAPPEARED. Damn, I hate this feeling. Our last conversation was about LIVING. NOT DYING! And he just so happened to leave me, of all people.

I was his last crush. I was his best friend. And now he's GONE.

and thanks for the hugs, you don't know how badly I need that..

@RedTheLoveless

You don't, really. There's no proper way to cope with this sort of thing. The blow will get softened by time, but the wound will probably never fully heal, and that's okay.

I'd suggest finding one or two people you trust, and hanging out with them for the rest of the day. Ask them to do whatever to need to have done: advice, just listening, silence, being a buffer between you and other people who may approach you.

It's okay to be a mess. It's okay to struggle. It's okay to grieve at your own pace and in your own way, so long as it is healthy for you. Okay?

That's all I can give at the moment. Good luck, Sorrel.

@Anemone eco

(Okay, so I don't really have much good to say, but here…)

It's going to be hard to get over, Sorrel, extremely hard. And in reality, you may never get over it. Sometimes it's just a matter of acceptance, not a thing you need to forget about. When my friend died(not from a car crash, but something else), I had cried for hours straight. I sat blaming the world and calling everything cruel. I became bitter and I was wrong to do so.

It was true that my friend was dead and that it was sad how they died. I but I knew I couldn't blame the world and I knew that I wasn't meant to forget about them and move on. Rather, I had to accept that they were truly safe and that the dangers of life could no longer reach them.

I know that losing someone so suddenly like that is painful. Not getting a chance to say goodbye hurts. Whether you believe that he's still out there, as an angel or a ghost is up to you. But you need to remember that he is still alive within you. You need to know that he cared for you truly.

I'm like, so bad at comforting people that it's painful

Deleted user

You're not that bad, it's actually really sensible. Thanks for this..!

@RedTheLoveless

Thanks, Red. That's great advice,,,

Just using what I've learned from my therapy sessions. Speaking of which, seeing one may be a good idea, but no pressure if you can't/don't want to.