(Fyi: this is not a self-hate thread)
I try to be a happy, upbeat, helpful person on this site. But sometimes I feel like I’ve just been hanging around the edges, watching things happen and not giving support.
I should have said something to help this person.
I should have encouraged that person.
I should have congratulated them on their success.
You know the feeling?
So I’m asking you to help me be a better person and a more supportive friend.
And if I’ve offended/insulted/come off as rude to you, please tell me! I know I’ve said things that either are so sarcastic they sound rude or are things I should’nt’ve said. And I’m sorry for that.
also my self esteem’s a little low rn so if you could tell me something you like about me that’d be great
I don't really know how to reply to this. But I'll be here if you need me.
Hello… It goes like this…
- Don't be shy, everyone on this site is so kind, and funny, that you needn't worry… If you have advice or knowledge on a subject, speak up, OK? Don't stay silent…
- Sometimes empathy goes a long way, if you can't give someone advice, just show them how you feel, and how much you care…
- Trust your gut. Your instincts have something to say, so listen, and if you think it's helpful, share it…
- Have an imagination… As a writer, this is necessary, so obviously, if you're a writer you've got this down by now… Use your imagination…
- Pragmatism is one of the most important traits a helpful person can have, develop your powers of logic, reasoning, and rational thought!
- Someone who caves under pressure too easily, can't help others, that's a given! Learn to deal with stress in healthy ways, and pass those ways on to others…
- You have to really want it. Do you REALLY want to be a better person? If so, then never stop trying…
- Altruism is key to everything… If you're too selfish to help anyone, then well, you're out of luck… That's how it is…
- Get inspired! What inspires you to want to help more people? Find that thing, and capture it… Use it to help…
- Willpower and a good attitude are what you need… Just trust me…
You have all of these traits within you, and you can use all these methods… But you have to grow as a person before you truly can help people… Practice mindfulness… Read up on the subject… Anything!
thanks so much I really appreciate it :)
