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I'll help you vent, I kind of helped in the other chat. Pour your heart out, I have none. JK I'll listen and try to help.

@rebelwithareadingproblem

We've been together for over 4 months and I'll be going to highschool next year, which already was going to complicate things but now I'm going to be going to a different school district and he's all, idek, about it and it hurts. I want him to be happy for me but I have to see it from his POV, I'm leaving, voluntarily leaving w/o a second thought about how it would make my people(friends, him, etc) feel, but I have and that's the confusing part. As much as I'd like to lie to myself, me and him are temporary, and I have the rest of my life to think about, I can't decide where I'm going to HS bc of my boyfriend, and I've already decided so we're either going to have to make it work or put ourselves in a position to where it wouldn't have to work, in other words, break up. Which I REALLY don't want to do..

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Is school your only bonding ground? It's not really like you're moving away. It's education and I feel like he has to understand that. You two can still be together without going to the same school. But no matter what, always pursue education. He may only be temporary, or he may become much more. You never know.
School'll get you places, he may or may not. If he's really serious, he should understand this. I understand school is very stressful but there are other times when you are free, right? Summer break is coming up, maybe you can bond over that break?
Did i help at all?

@rebelwithareadingproblem

Yeah you did help, my parents are just pretty strict and they literally do not let me hang out with him, at all. School's the only time we get to be a couple, I mean, I'm not gonna kiss my bf in front of my parents and he's not gonna wrap his arms around my waist in front of them either, it's just, difficult…

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I understand. I have never been in a relationship so I don't know how much I can really help you.
Talk to your parents. Make a deal. Introduce your BF to them, get them to know him better. Maybe if you gain their trust, it'll help everyone's relationship. Ask why they're so strict. Understand their point of view.
I understand you also may be embarrassed. Think of it this way. Your parents may have gone through something like this, they've had relationships. They're your go-to if you have any questions.
Be open to them. (This is hard for me since im always in my dark room, on my laptop.)
I hope this helped. I got to go.