I have a 13 year old character (Elijah) whose parents have been divorced, leaving Elijah's mother needing to work a minimum wage job to support her and her son, meaning that she doesn't have any time left over to spend with Elijah. My dilemma, is that Elijah wants to please everyone and tries tirelessly to make friends… I'm not sure if that represents the symptoms of abandonment properly… If someone could help me out, it would be greatly appreciated :D
Hello! As someone who somewhat suffers from abandonment issues I’d say you’re doing quite well at illustrating this so far <3
Oh, thank goodness- ;w;
As someone who dates someone who suffers from this, yeah, you are doing a spot on job with what you're doing so far.
Something I'd like to suggest is that if Elijah ever makes a friend or has someone very close to him, he would ask for constant validation that they do like him and that he isn't in the way?
Whenever my partner and I don't talk for a long period of time (when I'm at work), they will overthink to the point where they are having a panic attack because they keep thinking that I don't actually love them and that I will leave them. Whenever I reassure them that I am always going to be here and that I love them, lets just say that the relief on their face is one that hurts to see because of why they need the reassurance in the first place.
Oh, yes! Thank you for the advice! :D
I'll make sure to incorporate that into his character!